Leaving/Endings

Neutral Zone

New Beginnings/Start-Up

Things “stop” and that is external.

When we say “end,” we mean something internal –the way that things have been experienced, related to, counted on is over.

A piece of one’s life is gone. That is why endings have so much impact.

Comfort Zone

What to Expect

Physical Relocation

Predictability

The nowhere between two somewheres

“Tohu vevohu” no

man’s land, quicksand,

the dessert, neither

here nor there

The in-between states where the old way

of doing things, the old identity, or the

old life is gone, but the new one hasn’t

yet become operational or effective.

It is a chaotic time and one when

people are tempted to go back to the

past or to bail out completely.

The emotional renewal of commitment

to and identification with an

organization.

The beginning really involves a new

identity, a new sense of purpose, and a

new sense of meaning.

1. Multiple transitions

are going on – You, your family, your

organization.

2. There is an overlap of emotions.

Plan self care for the leader

Look after the leader’s family

Stress – how does a committee run

interference for the leader?

Hard to overcome

Be intentional – what do you want

people to remember

Mindfully select first success

Supply Leader with

lists

Key leaders – visible

Key leaders – hidden

Key leaders-supply

bio

Supply Leader with

lists

Birthdays

Illness, Anniversaries, Special Events

20 people to take

out to lunch

Of people

Of accomplishments

Of challenges

Do Wall of Wonder exercise

Vietnam

War

1996 Daniel’s

Bar Mitsvah

Run interference for the leader

Stress continuity

Affirm history

Make list of changes they want

Number one issue is changing a custom

without consultation

Communication Issues

Expectations exercise

Information

Do not avoid but see as information

Not resolve but manage

Protect Leader

Allow for reactivity by the leader

Not just one predecessor

Minutes of meetings – especially Board

Meetings

Bulletins and Publications

List of customs

Places with representatives from

institution

People with representatives from the

institution

Showcase talent of new leader

Pareto Principle

20% of your activity should produce 80%

of your product