CO 528 Week 2

• Dr. Larry Crabb• Dr. John R. Cheydleur• Dr. Gary Collins

Psychology

Helping Skills

Cheydleur: Called to Counsel

Overview of Chapter 1

Cheydleur’s Counseling Model

•1. Client feels instability

•2. Client requests counseling

•3. Reflect content

•4. Empathize with feelings

•5. Mirror values

•6. Sort values

•7. Value comparison

•8. Value choice

• 9. Connecting feelings to values

•10. Decision making

•11. Action planning

•12. Client achieves stability

12 Common Mistakes-Chapter 1

1. Patronizing or cliché responses2. Questions and probes too soon3. Inappropriate self-disclosure4. Advice instead of information5. Misuse or nonuse of Scripture6. Overlooking client values7. Misuse of prayer8. Misuse of religious symbols9. Poor challenging skills10. Superficial decisions 11. Artificial action plans12. Overlooking accountability

Collins

How to Be a People Helper

The Heart of People Helping

Heart of Christianity

• Discipleship: Obedience Love

Fruitfulness• Costs: Personal relationships

Personal ambitions Personal possessions

• Responsibilities Outreach Bring others to maturity Make disciplers

Photo from: http://www.garyrcollins.com/

The Basics of People Helping

• Influenced by Paul Tournier, a Swiss physician and pastoral counselor; very influential

• Christian people helping involves: A prophetic task, a liberating task, and

empowering task

People Helper Principles

1. The personality, values, attitudes, and beliefs of the helper are of primary importance. Qualities of the helper include warmth, trust, acceptance, empathy, and genuineness as modeled by Jesus.

2. The helpee’s attitudes , motivation, expectations and desire for help are also important. We are not there to “fix” anyone; the helpee must have some desire to change.

Principles continued

Helping focuses on the person’s emotions, thoughts, and behavior.

Thinking

Actions

Feeling

Assignments

Quiz 1

Discussion Question 2

Any 3 Skill Builders from Cheydleur