ISSUE 7Communicating Well With Your Loved OnesCan You Hear Me?Travel Safely!

“孙子”兵法

耳部疾病：耳鸣

居家生活小贴士，保你安全无烦忧！

KomunikasiMelancong Dengan Salamat!

EDITOR’S NOTEExistential psychologist Rollo Reece May once said: “Communication leads to community, that is, to understanding, intimacy and mutual valuing.” In this issue, our Special Feature explores how to be a skilful communicator with our loved ones, with useful tips such as the five rules of communication, the practice of active-listening, and how to give compliments.

One of the factors affecting communication is our ability to hear. In Singapore, the prevalence of hearing loss increases with age. Health is Wealth explains the different types of hearing loss and offers library titles to power-up your knowledge on how to protect and manage your hearing. Last but not least, indulge your wanderlust with the travelling tips in Simplicity Is Good for a truly fuss-free holiday experience.

The Time of Your Life Reading Kit for the 50plus is now three years old. When first launched in 2013, it took the form of daily book recommendations in our bimonthly reusable calendars. From mid-2014, we revamped the kit into the subscription-based reading kit, comprising a publication, together with mind-stimulating manipulatives, mailed directly to your home. Throughout this time, the aim of the reading kit has always been to provide you with good information, title recommendations for your reading pleasure and mental stimulation. We hope you have enjoyed the reading kits.

Your subscription is ending with this issue. The Time of Your Life Reading Kit will cease production from April 2016. However, we will continue with the publication of the Time of Your Life magazine. The new issue of the magazine will be available at all public libraries come June 2016. We look forward to your support. Do come to the library to join our programmes, borrow some good reads, and remember to pick up the magazine on your way out. May you continue to enjoy the Time Of Your Life!

Editors: January Yeo, Wendy Guan & Felix Ser

SpeCiaL FeaTure

Communicating wellwith your loved ones

Good communication is important in nurturing and maintaining healthy relationships within the family. This is especially so in the face of changes such as new additions to the family and changes in familial roles. Perhaps you are now a grandparent for the first time, or you find yourself struggling to communicate with your teenage grandchild. Maybe you wonder how you can provide support to your adult child who is struggling without undermining him or her.

5 Rules of Effective CommunicationAccording to the book Say This, Not That, there are 5 rules to effective communication:1. Knowing what you want to accomplish by asking that question or making

that comment. Before you speak to a child, spend a few seconds to decide if you are trying to convey a message to him or just airing your frustration.

The book Difficult Conversations talks about not focusing on “venting”, which only creates negative feelings in the relationship. Instead, you can tell the person how you feel and clarify with them their intentions so as not to make the wrong assumptions. Do they really mean what you think they said?

2. Saying what you need and nothing more – so as to avoid jeopardizing what you truly meant.

3. Don’t ask false or rhetorical questions just to vent your anxiety and resentment.

4. Do not use blame as it is made up of four toxic behaviours – “criticism, accusation, punishment, and humiliation”.

5. Know when to stop before the discussion becomes too heated.

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Demonstrate Good Listening SkillsCommunication is not just about conveying your thoughts but also being a good listener. The authors of Difficult Conversations share 3 main tips: a) learn to ask open-ended questions and to ask for more concrete information to understand where the speaker is coming from; b) paraphrase what you have just heard so as to check your understanding and show the speaker that you have heard him; c) acknowledge his feelings by showing that you are trying to understand the emotional state he is in – i.e. show empathy.

Compliment!Lastly, be generous with compliments. The compliments given should be meaningful to the person so that it will go a long way to acknowledge the person’s efforts, boost the person’s morale, and improve your relationship. The book The Art of the Compliment talks about how compliments need not be about something big but can be about simple everyday things. For example, “I learnt so much from you.” Sometimes, just listening attentively to the speaker can be a compliment too.

Praising your grandchild goes a long way in building the child’s self-esteem. Being praised by an adult often gives the child a sense of validation and self-worth. This is especially so if the compliment is about their effort rather than their abilities.

references

Say This, Not That: A Foolproof Guide to Effective interpersonal CommunicationCarl Alasko Call No.: 153.6 ALAAll rights reserved. New York: Jeremy P. Tarcher/Penguin, a member of Penguin Group, 2013.

Find the Words: Candid Conversations with Loved OnesSusan P. Halpern Call No.: 153.6 HALAll rights reserved. North Atlantic Books, California, 2009.

Difficult Conversations: How to Discuss What Matters MostDouglas Stone, Bruce Patton and Sheila HeenCall No.:158.2 STOAll rights reserved. London: Portfolio Penguin, 2011.

The Grandparents’ Book: Making the Mostof a Very Special relationshipMiriam StoppardCall No.: 306.8745 STO –[FAM]All rights reserved. London: Dorling Kindersley, 2006.

The art of the Compliment: using Kind Wordswith Grace and StyleChristie MathesonCall No.: 158.2 MATAll rights reserved. New York, NY: Skyhorse Pub., 2009.

Text: Tan Yun Xian

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Can you hear me?

In general, there are two types of hearing loss. Conductive hearing loss occurs when sound waves cannot be transmitted properly to the inner ear. This may be caused by earwax build-up, fluid, or a punctured eardrum. Sensorineural hearing loss occurs as a result of damage to the inner ear or the auditory nerve.

Hearing loss could range from a mild loss where one misses certain high-pitched sounds to a total loss of hearing. It can be hereditary, caused by acute and prolonged exposure to loud noise, or arise from infections, diseases, trauma, certain medications, and old age. Age-related hearing loss is one of the most common problems affecting older adults and the elderly. Among American adults, there is a strong positive correlation between age and reported hearing loss1. In Singapore, one in every five Singaporeans in their 50s has hearing loss. The occurrence rate is two in every five people in their 60s2. This prevalence is projected to increase with Singapore’s ageing population.

“What? I can’t hear you!”, “What did you say?”, “Can you repeat it louder?” Hearing difficulties pose a burden to everyday conversations and daily routines, which may gradually result in social isolation. Helen Keller said, “Blindness separates people from things, deafness separates people from people.” Losing the ability to hear can have a significant impact on your well-being and quality of life, as well as the lives of your family and friends. Hence, when faced with hearing loss, you should not deny or hide this impairment, which in turn will deprive you of the necessary support and knowledge you’ll need to cope with it.

HeaLTH iS WeaLTH

1 NIHSeniorHealth: Hearing Loss - What is Hearing Loss? National Institute on Deafness and Other Communication Disorders (2012). Retrieved from http://nihseniorhealth.gov/hearingloss/hearinglossdefined/01.html on October 2015.

2 What did you say?”- NUH. Retrieved from https://www.nuh.com.sg/wbn/slot/u3662/Lifeline%201_2015/18-19%20LL_Wellbeing.pdf on 15 October 2015.

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One common form of hearing loss associated with ageing is known as presbycusis. It occurs due to changes in the inner ear, auditory nerve, middle ear, or outer ear; and a person may find it difficult to tolerate loud sounds or hear what others are saying. Another hearing disorder common among older people is known as tinnitus, a symptom described as a ringing, roaring, clicking, hissing, or buzzing sound in the ears.

Hearing loss can occur in various forms and spectrums. Awareness of this condition and early detection, therefore, are important. Consult an audiologist or ENT (ear, nose, and throat) doctor to seek professional advice and treatment if you think you may have any age-related hearing problems3.

references

The Hearing Loss Guide: useful information and advice for patients and FamiliesJohn M. BurkeyCall No.: 617.8 BUR - [HEA]All rights reserved. New Haven: Yale University Press, 2015

The Complete idiot’s Guide to Hearing LossHouse ClinicCall No.: 617.8 COM - [HEA]All rights reserved. New York, NY: Alpha Books/Penguin Group, c2010.

Living with Tinnitus and HyperacusisLaurence McKenna, David M. Baguley, Don J. McFerranCall No.: 617.8 MAC - [HEA]All rights reserved. London: Sheldon, 2010.

age-related Hearing LossNational Institute on Deafness and Other Communication Disorders (NIDCD) websiteRetrieved from http://www.nidcd.nih.gov/health/hearing/Pages/Age-Related-Hearing-Loss.aspx on 15 October 2015.

Text: Sharon Ong

HeaLTH iS WeaLTH

3 Hearing Loss - Singapore Health Hospitals and Doctors. Retrieved from https://www.singhealth.com.sg/PatientCare/ConditionsAndTreatments/Pages/Hearing-Loss.aspx on 15 October 2015.

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Travel Safely!Going on a Vacation?Everyone looks forward to having an enjoyable holiday and getting a break from their routine. If you think vacations are meant for relaxing, think twice. In order to enjoy your trip, you have to plan well and have proper safety measures in place. If not, it will ruin your holiday.

Travel advisory and emergency Situations Always check if there is any travel advisory for your intended travel destination on the Ministry of Foreign Affairs (MFA)’s website. This will help you in planning your trip and deciding on your destination.

To seek consular assistance during an emergency, you must contact the overseas mission’s office. Therefore it is important to note down the contact information of the overseas mission nearest to you, and also register online with MFA at https://eregister.mfa.gov.sg/. This will enable you to receive necessary consular assistance during an emergency, or during crises like natural disasters, civil unrest or terror attacks.

SiMpLiCiTY iS GOOD

Travel insuranceUnexpected things can happen anytime. To protect yourself from unforeseen emergencies, you should purchase travel insurance. Your vacation can turn ugly if your insurance plan has limitations. Ensure that it covers emergencies like accidents, medical conditions, flight delays, and loss of valuables or luggage.

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packing your LuggageTo identify your bag easily, place a tag or tie a bright-coloured ribbon on it. Place a sealed envelope in your bag with copies of your travel itinerary, passport and hotel accommodation. Give copies of the aforementioned to a friend or family member.

Always carry items such as glasses, medicines, and other important things with you, and do not pack them in your check-in baggage.

Money & Valuable itemsAvoid being an easy target by not carrying valuables, large sums of cash, or branded items when you travel. Carry a dummy wallet with just enough money, keep the rest in a waist band, and hide it in a safe place.

Taking these safety measures will ensure that you have a pleasant andsafe vacation.

Text: Meenakshi Nandivada

SiMpLiCiTY iS GOOD

references:

Your privacy & SecurityJohn MingesCall No.: 364.4 MINAll Rights Reserved. John Minges, 2014.

Seniors Travel TipsBronwyn WhiteCall No.: 910.2020846 WBSTT -[TRA]All Rights Reserved. USA: Bronwyn White Pub., 2011.

Travel Health Guide: everything You Need to Know Before You Leave, While You’re away, after You’re BackMark WiseCall No.: 613.68 WIS -[HEA]All Rights Reserved. Buffalo, N.Y.; Richmond Hill, Ont.: Firefly Books, 2010.

Travel Wise: How to be Safe, Savvy, and Secure abroadRay S LekiCall No.: 613.68 LEK -[HEA]All Rights Reserved. Boston: Intercultural Press, c2008.

advice for Singaporeans Going OverseasMinistry of Home Affairs Retrieved from http://www.mfa.gov.sg/content/mfa/consular_information/for_singapore_citizens/advice_for_singaporeans_going_overseas.html on 15 October 2015

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Photo credit: Yeo Hong Eng,Singapore Memory Project

Photo credit: Leow How Phing,Singapore Memory Project

Station elevenEmily St. John MandelCall No.: MAN (also available in eBook format)All Rights Reserved. New York: Alfred A. Knopf, 2014.

When a mysterious flu epidemic wipes out most of Earth’s population, its survivors must find a way to stay hopeful about the future. The story flits between the members of the Traveling Symphony, a group of nomadic artistes who traverse the United States to perform Shakespeare; Arthur Leander, a famous actor around whom the story is centred, and several other characters whose links to each other are gradually revealed. Running through it all is the enigmatic Station Eleven comic, serving as a microcosm of life after the pandemic and a source of marvel and wonder for its readers.

An immensely moving story, Station Eleven is a testimony to the power of art, relationships and the endurance of the human spirit.

a Little Life: a NovelHanya YanagiharaCall No.: YANAll Rights Reserved. New York: Doubleday, 2015.

A Little Life tells the stories of four friends who meet in university and their various dreams and hopes, as well as struggles and insecurities. Throughout the years, Malcolm, JB, Willem, and Jude remain committed to being there for each other – and especially for Jude, whose reserved manner and unknown past hides great tragedy.

As the novel progresses, the four men’s lives and careers develop successfully, but Jude’s personal demons also become harder to manage. Devastating in its revelations and conclusions, A Little Life is nevertheless a tribute to the tenacity of the human will – and how, despite its brutal horrors, there is beauty to be found in a life, no matter how little, after all.

Fictilicious

BOOK reCOMMeNDaTiONS

Text: Nicola Cheong

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instant: the Story of polaroidChristopher BonanosCall No.: 338.76814180 BON-[BIZ]All Rights Reserved. Princeton Architectural Press, 2012.

In this age of digital photographs, watching your own face slowly appear out of the green-grey mist of developing chemicals can still captivate. In 1937, Polaroid sprang from a garage start-up to a billion-dollar company and a household name. Read about Polaroid’s founder, Dr. Edwin Land, and how his vison and dedication dazzled the world with instant pictures even before the arrival of digital cameras.

irrationally Yours: On Missing Socks, pickup Lines, and Other existential puzzlesDan Ariely Call no.: 153.4 ARIAll Rights Reserved. New York, NY: Harper Perennial, an imprint of

HarperCollins Publishers, 2015.

This book is based on Ariely’s column in The Wall Street Journal –“Ask Ariely”. The column features readers’ questions to Ariely together with his amusing and thoughtful responses. Haefeli’s cartoons are equally funny and compliment his responses.

Questions featured cover a variety of topics and situations that we may have encountered in our daily lives. While some of his answers may be useful and help to resolve issues that bother you, others may provoke you to think and reflect. Questions range from simple to complex issues that people face such as ”wedding ring woes” or ”the art & joy of saying no”.

A hilarious read which will change your perception about difficult situations in your everyday life.

unexpected Finds

Text: Lang Yee Chuan & Meenakshi Nandivada

BOOK reCOMMeNDaTiONS

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CATATAN EDITORKhas untuk pembaca yang dihormati,

Pernahkah anda berselisih faham dengan ahli keluarga? Hubungan yang baik sesama insan sangat penting untuk kebahagiaan dalam kehidupan. Komunikasi positif adalah salah satu asas penting bagi menjamin perhubungan yang baik dengan orang yang kita sayangi. Edisi ini akan menerangkan bagaimana anda boleh meningkatkan kemahiran berkomunikasi dan juga cara memupuk nilai positif dalam membentuk sebuah keluarga bahagia. Dalam bahagian ‘Indahnya Bersederhana’, kami berkongsi panduan-panduan untuk melancong dengan selamat.

Kit Bacaan ini sudah mencapai tahun yang ketiga. Semenjak pelancarannya, ia telah banyak melalui proses kemas kini. Ketika pertama kali dilancarkan pada tahun 2013/14, ia diterbitkan sebagai sebuah buku yang mengandungi saranan bahan bacaan dan juga sebuah kalendar. Pada pertengahan tahun 2014, kit ini dirombak menjadi Kit Bacaan langganan dan dihantar terus ke rumah. Namun, fungsinya tidak berubah. Ia tetap memberi maklumat yang tepat dan juga rujukan bahan bacaan yang seronok untuk dihayati. Kami harap Kit Bacaan ini telah memberi manfaat kepada anda.

Langganan anda akan tamat dengan penerbitan isu ketujuh ini. Namun penerbitan majalah Time of Your Life akan diteruskan mulai Jun 2016 dan ia boleh didapatkan di semua perpustakaan awam. Kami ingin mengucapkan terima kasih atas sokongan anda selama ini. Kami harap anda akan terus memberi sokongan terhadap penerbitan majalah baharu nanti. Kami turut meraikan penyertaan anda dalam pelbagai acara yang bakal dianjurkan di semua perpustakaan kami.

Selamat membaca. Semoga anda sentiasa sihat dan berbahagia!

Editor: Hussain Bachek & Herman Rothman

Komunikasi

SOrOTaN KHaS

Jalinan hubungan yang baik sesama manusia sangat penting untuk kebahagiaan dalam sesebuah kehidupan. Keluarga bahagia akan melahirkan masyarakat yang juga bahagia. Komunikasi positif dalam sesebuah keluarga penting untuk menjana kehidupan berkeluarga yang berkualiti.

Bagaimana Caranya?Kemahiran berkomunikasi sesama keluarga hendaklah dipupuk sejak awal lagi. Gunakanlah bahasa dan perkataan yang positif bila berbicara. Setiap anggota keluarga memainkan peranan penting untuk menjalin kasih sayang antara satu sama lain.

Tangani KeteganganJurang perbezaan umur boleh menimbulkan ketidakserasian berkomunikasi dalam kalangan ahli keluarga. Namun adat ketimuran yang menuntut kita menghormati golongan lebih tua dapat mengatasi masalah ini. Agama juga menuntut seseorang untuk menyayangi dan menghargai golongan tua, lebih-lebih lagi jika mereka sudah lanjut usia. Jadi, pastikan kita menyediakan masa khusus untuk bermesra bersama ahli keluarga dengan berbual-bual secara santai, berbincang dan berkongsi pengalaman.

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rujukan

Formula Merawat HatiAhmad Adnan Fadzil; Amly AsenaNombor Panggilan: 297.5 AHMPenerbit: Selangor, Batu Caves: Must Read, 2014.

Wahai anakku: Senyumlah 2: Hadiah Daripadaayah Dan BondaTuan Ibrahim Tuan Man Nombor Panggilan: 297.577 IBRPenerbit: Subang Jaya, Selangor : VI Venture , 2013.

Dari Lubuk Hati ibuNorhafizah Musa; Wan Nor Ainon Wan Abdullah Nombor Panggilan: 306.8743 NOR [FAM]Penerbit: Kuala Lumpur: Telaga Biru, 2011.

indahnya islam Mengatur KitaHarussani Haji ZakariaNombor Panggilan: 297.57 HARHak Cipta Terpelihara. Selangor : Karya Bestari

Penerbit: Kuala Lumpur: Must Read, 2010.

rancang akitiviti Bersama Adakan akitiviti yang melibatkan semua ahli keluarga, termasuk datuk dan nenek, seperti beriadah, berkelah ataupun bercuti. Masa yang diluangkan bersama dapat memupuk kasih sayang dan menambahkan kemesraan. Justeru, ia juga meningkatkan persefahaman sesama ahli keluarga.

Namun, pengamalan agama merupakan aspek terpenting bagi pembentukan sebuah keluarga yang bahagia lagi utuh.

Sumbangan: Marhama Mohamed

SOrOTaN KHaS

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Melancong Dengan Selamat!

Sebelum MelancongAmbil tahu tentang tempat yang ingin anda tuju dengan teliti. Pastikan anda tahu maklumat menghadapi kecemasan bagi kawasan itu sebelum merancang perjalanan anda. Sediakan senarai semak bagi keperluan yang harus dibawa seperti ubat-ubatan, jumlah wang dan pakaian. Anda juga boleh membeli insuran perjalanan dan pastikan pasport anda belum tamat tempoh.

Bagi memudahkan perjalanan, bincanglah dengan kumpulan anda tentang atur cara dan rancangan semasa berada di negeri orang. Meskipun itinerari ini tidak akan diikut seratus peratus, ia tetap dapat membantu anda membuat persiapan yang sempurna demi mengelakkan sebarang kesulitan nanti. Ambil tahu juga tentang waktu solat dan tempat-tempat yang menyediakan makanan halal supaya anda dapat melaksanakan tanggungjawab sebagai Muslim meskipun sedang melancong. Apabila semua sudah tersedia, sekarang anda boleh melancongdengan tenang!

Melancong bersama pasangan atau keluarga adalah sesuatu aktiviti yang menarik dan merupakan pengalaman yang indah. Namun, jika tidak berhati-hati, pengalaman indah boleh bertukar pahit dengan sekelip mata. Berikut adalah panduan yang boleh anda amalkan sebelum, ketika dan selepas melancong.

iNDaHNYa BerSeDerHaNa

Ketika MelancongJika anda membawa bagasi yang besar atau banyak bilangannya, pastikan ianya ditanda dengan reben yang mudah anda cam. Ini akan menjimatkan masa untuk mendapatkan semula bagasi terutama selepas menempuh perjalanan yang jauh.

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Sumbangan: Rasyidah Angullia

iNDaHNYa BerSeDerHaNa

Apabila anda tiba di hotel penginapan, pastikan keperluan sudah disediakan dengan sempurna. Contohnya, pastikan tempat simpanan barang berharga yang terletak di bilik berfungsi dengan baik bagi mengelakkan sebarang kejadian yang tidak diingini.

Ketika anda mahu berjalan di luar kawasan penginapan, mintalah bantuan daripada pegawai hotel untuk mendapatkan perkhidmatan pengangkutan yang selamat. Usahlah mencari sendiri jika tidak biasa dengan daerah itu supaya anda tidak ditipu. Namun yang paling penting sekali, bawa beg kecil sahaja ketika berjalan-jalan supaya anda tidak menarik perhatian pencuri. Jika membawa jumlah wang yang banyak, sebaik-baiknya dibahagi-bahagikan sesama ahli kumpulan atau disimpan di dalam peti besi di bilik hotel. Akhir sekali, rakamlah seberapa banyak gambaruntuk memori!

Selepas MelancongSetelah puas melancong, kini tiba masanya untuk pulang ke tanah air tercinta. Sebelum anda mula mengemas baju dan rehat, ada beberapa lagi panduan penting yang harus diberi perhatian.

Ketika mengambil bagasi anda, pastikan ianya masih elok dan tiada barang yang hilang. Periksa pasport dan baki wang anda. Simpanlah kededuanya di tempat yang selamat. Akhir sekali, cuci gambar yang telah anda petik sebagai kenangan.Selamat melancong!

rujukan

Travel City: persiapan Jelajah asia TenggaraArtsonNombor Panggilan: 915.9 ART-[TRA]Penerbit: Jakarta: Gramedia Pustaka Utama, 2012.

60 Tip Mengembara: Persediaan Sebelum BermusafirWan Hassan Wan IsmailNombor Panggilan: 910.202 WAN-[TRA]Penerbit: Kuala Lumpur: Telaga Biru, 2012.

Fiqh Musafir M. Solahudin; alih bahasa, Norsheilla Mohd. Yusof; disemak oleh Mohd. Puzhi UsopNombor Panggilan: 297.57 SOLPenerbit: Selangor: Al-Hidayah House of Publishers, 2012.

Pasport MusafirMohd. Zuhdi Ahmad KhasasiNombor Panggilan: 297.5 MOHPenerbit: Batu Caves, Selangor: PTS Islamika, 2011.

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Gambar ihsan: Yeo Hong Eng,Projek Memori Singapura

Gambar ihsan: Leow How Phing,Projek Memori Singapura

iBu: aNTOLOGi puiSiKumpulan PenulisNombor Panggilan: 899.2211 IBU Penerbit: Depok: Yayasan Panggung Melayu, 2014.

“Senyuman ibu membawa rahmatKasih ibu kasih sejatiTangis ibu menghiris kalbuKetawa ibu ceriakan hidup”

Ibu. Seorang insan yang cukup istimewa. Biarlah apa pun gelaran diberi – ibu, emak, mama, umi, bonda – dia tetap tiada pengganti. Dialah ratu hati, dialah pengubat luka, dialah sumber kekuatan anak-anaknya. Tanpa seorang ibu, sebuah rumah pastinya kurang sempurna kerana ibulah yang menyatukan keluarga.

Buku ini merupakan kumpulan puisi yang dihasilkan oleh penulis dari Singapura, Malaysia, Indonesia dan Brunei. Ia mengandungi luahan hati dan imbasan kenangan para penulis mengenai ibu mereka. Tidak kira siapa pun yang membaca puisi-puisi ini – anda sebagai ibu, bapa ataupun anak pasti boleh menghayati maksud di sebalik ayat-ayat indah ini.

aKu iNGiN KeMBara LaGiMohd. Asri Zainul AbidinNombor Panggilan: 910.4 MOHPenerbit: Shah Alam: Grup Buku Karangkraf, 2014.

“Jauh perjalanan, luas pemandangan.” Ungkapan yang sangat sesuai dengan buku ini. Prof. Madya Dato’ Dr. Mohd Asri Zainul Abidin telah menghimpun tulisan-tulisan hasil renungan beliau semasa bertugas sebagai felow di OCIS, Oxford. Kehidupannya di London banyak memberi beliau pengalaman dan perspektif yang membuka minda.

Antara topik yang disentuh adalah penciptaan masa, cinta sebelum kahwin dari aspek Islam, kejatuhan Islam di Sepanyol, pemerintahan yang ideal dan manfaat mengembara. Kandungan buku ini turut menyentuh perihal agama, sosial, ilmiah dan sejarah.

Gaya penulisannya amat menyeluruh; penulis bijak mengungkap pengalaman beliau dengan menggunakan susunan bahasa yang mudah lagi lancar agar senang dibaca.

Buku ini sesuai dimanfaatkan kerana ia membuka minda anda tentang luasnya bumi dan kekuasaan Tuhan.

SaraNaN BaCaaN

Mutiara Bacaan

Sumbangan: Nurfarahin Mohamed Amin

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卷首语

“做一个好听众，鼓励别人说说他们自己。” 是美国著名的人

际关系学家，戴尔·卡耐基曾说过的名言。这期的特写专栏将探

讨家人之间如何进行良好的沟通，并分享交谈的小贴士，希望帮

助祖孙两代更好地学习沟通技巧，增进彼此间的感情。

再者，听觉能力是影响沟通的因素之一。在新加坡，有不少人会

随着年龄增长而逐渐丧失听力。健康=财富的篇章将解析耳鸣以

及这种症状所带来的困扰。除此之外，您也可从一切从简的篇章

中获知居家小窍门，使您的生活变得更便利。

此外，《乐在生活》阅读指南满三岁了！创刊于2013年，它以双

月历的形式为大家介绍书目。从2014年中期至今，我们更新了方

针，以订阅方式将阅读指南配套邮寄给您，希望借此能为您提供

有益的信息，好书推介及益智游戏。

您的订阅，也随即第七期（2016年4月刊）的结束而终止。然

而，我们将以杂志的形式续版《乐在生活》。第一期的杂志将在

2016年6月期间，于各公共图书馆发行，届时记得索取一份！

编辑：何静如；朱思洁

如何制造互动的契机？祖父母与孙子之间最好的互动契机，莫过于与彼此分享个人的兴趣。分享所喜爱的事物除了能激发孙子的思考和学习能力，同时又能巩固祖孙情，一举两得。

互动之余，别忘了相处是以质而不是以量来衡量的。所以放慢脚步，与孙子一起享受闲暇时光，才是王道。

年幼的小孩大多喜欢到户外活动，所以一同前往公园或海滩是建立好关系的跳板。此外，户外活动所带来的各种感官刺激与冒险体验，既能让老老少少留下美好的回忆，也能引起更多有趣的话题。

从事与分享您热爱的活动或参与孩子们的嗜好，是一种互相了解，又能彼此陪伴的方式。您以为孙子不感兴趣的活动，像编织或园艺活动，说不定是您和孙子连接关系的重要桥梁。当您对一些只有孙子才会感兴趣的东西表示认同，他们也会乐于分享，无形中开拓新的沟通管道。

如果您还在工作的话，带孙子参观您的工作场所，这能让他们对您所从事的行业有更进一步的认识，扩展他们的视野。如果您已经退休，不妨利用图片或描述您以前工作时的情况，同样也能达到相同的效果。

交谈的六种小贴士沟通的重点之一是要懂得尊重小孩，包括说话的语气和聆听的技巧。良好的沟通能力，靠的就是如何传达与接收讯息。良好的沟通也能培养健康的祖孙关系，建立合作精神和灌输正确的价值观。而沟通不畅则会导致孩子把自己封闭起来，不愿与人沟通和交流，变得难以琢磨。以下有六种小贴士，各位祖父母们可要善加利用哦！

1. 肢体语言在给予小孩指示之前，不如先蹲下，通过与孩子对视，引起他们的注意，然后才说话。提供相对应的肢体语言，能让小孩知道您也在关注他们的需要。最重要的是，要让小孩感觉您的目光接触是要与他们联系而不是要控制他们。

2. 使用简单的句子说话时要强调的事，应把它放在句子的开头。絮絮叨叨的时间越长，会让孩子觉得您不是很确定自己要什么，孩子也会不知道到底要截取怎样的讯息。这些都会间接引起沟通上的反效果。

“孙子”兵法

特写

资料来源：

不说道理，只说故事：菜姨姨亲子共读60招

菜姨姨著

索书号：649.1 CYY –[FAM]

版权所有。香港：世界出版社，2011。

未来教育新焦点：专注自己、关怀他人、理解世界

丹尼尔·高曼著

索书号：371.207 GOL

版权所有。台北市：远见天下文化出版股份有限公司，2015。

缺失的心理教育课：好家长好老师必懂的6类关键心理问题

舒以著

索书号：155.5 SY

版权所有。武汉：武汉大学出版社，2012。

最好的教养在路上：80天，5个国家，30个城市，一边行走，

一边长大

朴善娥著

索书号：910.4 PAR

版权所有。北京市：北京理工大学出版社，2012。

特写

文：蓝亿泉

3. 提供不能拒绝你的理由当孩子不服从管教时，要适时提供小孩难以拒绝您的原因，尤其是让他们觉得自己有些优势，这能让小孩对于指示的接受度变得更高。

4. 善用假设语气“如果…就可以…”“如果你早点刷牙上床，我就可以早点讲故事给你听。” 说“如果…”的用意，是提示孩子您想要他遵从的条件，之后连接“就可以…”是提供他会得到的奖励，鼓励但不强迫他做到您期待他做的事。

5．动口不如动手抽出时间，携手参与孩子当下有兴趣的活动，适时地给予指导，让孩子从中学习正确的处事方式胜于命令孩子服从你。言教不如身教。

6. 引导孩子主动思考要孩子遵从一些规矩时，与其说“不要把东西乱放！”，不如用提问的方式，例如“马太，你觉得要怎样才能最好地存储你的玩具呢？”。这样一来，不但能让孩子独立思考问题，也能创造出一个更深刻的学习经验。

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耳部疾病：耳鸣什么是耳鸣

每个国家有10–15%的人口曾经历过耳鸣1。耳鸣患者没有特定的发病年龄，

年轻人或年长者都有可能患上这个疾病。耳鸣患者会莫名地听见类似“翁

翁”、“铃铃”和“噼噼”等持久不断的干扰声在耳边鸣响着。严重的患者

会因为强烈的耳鸣声而听不清楚他人说话，或是不能入睡，造成心情烦躁，

疲惫不堪。

耳鸣的起因是什么？

医学界目前对引起耳鸣的病源并不十分了解。所知道的是，当耳朵或脑部出

现异常，就可能会导致耳鸣。外耳积聚过多的耳垢和中耳发炎也会造成耳

鸣。此外，耳鸣也有可能是其他疾病的症兆。例如梅尼尔氏症是一种内耳失

常疾病，会导致患者呕吐、耳鸣和晕眩等现象。但是，现阶段仍然有60%的

耳鸣病案是找不出真正的病因2。这类的耳鸣称为原发性(idiopathic)

耳鸣。

老年人为什么会耳鸣？

听觉神经老化、血管老化、血液循环不通畅、内耳神经细胞受到损坏和萎缩

或衰退，都可能导致年长者患上耳鸣。除此之外，其他老年疾病也会造成内

耳神经退化。例如高血压、糖尿病和心脏病等都会引发血管硬化，耳神经也

可能因此跟着退化。

如何治疗耳鸣？

耳鸣患者会因为耳边一直发出的

干扰声而不能休息，严重地影响

了他们的生活素质，并造成精神

紧张。患者应立即前往耳鼻喉科

就诊。虽然目前医学界还没研究

出根治耳鸣的疗法，但病人能通

过药物治疗和心理辅导来放松心

情。患者也能通过简单的运动来

促进血液循环，减轻耳鸣现象。

健康=财富

1,2 林弘谕。“完美听觉”系列三：六成耳鸣导因不明。联合早报保健专刊，2013年12月19日。

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健康=财富

文：杨钦力

如何预防耳鸣？

维生素B群有助于脑部和神经发展，多摄取维生素B群能预防耳鸣，特别是维

生素B12，有促进神经代谢的功效。富维生素B12的食物包括肝脏、蚬、蛤蜊

和沙丁鱼等青类鱼。

资料来源：

耳部疾病：正确治疗与生活调养

石井正则著；肖燕译

索书号：617.8 ISH -[HEA]

版权所有。南宁：广西科学技术出版社，2011。

耳鸣恼人怎么办：即早治疗耳鸣，让你耳根清静

李宏信，李政道合著

索书号：617.8 LHX -[HEA]

版权所有。台北：姿霓文化公司，2009。

眩晕、耳鸣

水野正浩，伊藤彰纪主编；张中华翻译

索书号：616.841 XY -[HEA]

版权所有。郑州市：河南科学技术出版社，2014。

图解再也不烦恼!: 晕眩·耳鸣·头痛正确疗法与最新治疗

清水俊彦著

索书号：616.841 SHI -[HEA]

版权所有。台北市：台视文化，2013。

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居家生活小贴士，保你安全无烦忧！避免家居意外的发生，打造安全的居家环境是不可小觑的学问。一旦把意外

的风险降到最低，就能确保家中的长者能过上安全、舒适的日子。那么，长

者也不需感到担忧，能独立自主地生活。

新闻报道显示，近年来因在家里跌伤而入院的年长者人数有上升的趋势3。

最容易跌伤的部位包括了头部、胸部和四肢。由于年纪较大，所以康复的时

间比一般的伤者更久。年长者因跌伤而逝世的情况也高于其他的伤者。很多

时候，我们会忘了居家安全的重要性，忽略了家中该预备的防范措施。要细

心防止意外的发生，就得从日常生活中的细节着手。

浴室安全措施，您都具备吗？

浴室是家中滑倒受伤的高风险区。要避免年长者在浴室滑倒，需保持浴室的

地面干爽，可在地板铺上防滑垫，或改用防滑地砖。由于四肢协调和视力变

差，年长者在浴室里以站姿脱穿衣物时就必须更谨慎。如果条件允许，可以

在适当的空间摆放藤椅，以坐姿更换衣物反而更安全。

洗澡时也该注意水温，应保持在约摄氏30至40度，不宜用过热的水沐浴。用

过热的水可能使心脏和脑部的血流量过少，导致缺氧，并引发眼花、身体不

适和头晕等症状。

慎防跌倒，起居习惯要注意

除了浴室的安全措施，我们

也不能忽视起居习惯。在起

床时，避免在未完全苏醒前

起身，因这会导致站立不稳

而跌倒。居室的光源必须一

致，卧房、客厅和浴室的光

源应选用一致的“黄光”

或“白光”。室内也要注意

减少堆积障碍物，确保空间

宽敞。

一切从简

3 杨漾。多数发生在家里，严重意外创伤者，三分之一是老人。联合早报，2014年4月13日。

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文：辜微敏

资料来源：

摸准健康的门道：不可不知的健康方案让你活到100岁

健康生活研究组主编

索书号：613 FIN -[HEA]

版权所有。北京：新世界出版社，2009。

生活早参考

《生活早参考》栏目组组织编写

索书号：613 SHZ -[HEA]

版权所有。青岛：青岛出版社，2012。

长者照顾护理全图解

王天明编著

索书号：613.0438 WTM -[HEA]

版权所有。香港：万里机构·万里书店，2013。

居家护老心得

陈炳麟著

索书号：362.61 CBL

版权所有。香港：万里书店，2013。

一切从简

其它要注意的日常小细节，如选择拖鞋的款式也很重要。除了挑选防滑的室

内拖鞋，也可选择穿一片式包覆脚面的拖鞋，有助于脚步的平衡感。

只要细心观察周围的环境，在生活起居上进行微调，我们都可以在家中自主

生活，并享受安全舒适的环境！

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Leow How Phing,

耶鲁大学公开课：死亡

谢利·卡根著；贝小戎，蔡健仪，庞洋译

索书号：128.5 KAG

版权所有。北京市：北京联合出版公司，2014。

死亡这课题让人既畏惧、又好奇，而此书以哲学

的角度来探讨灵魂是否存在和死亡是否就是终点

这两个议题。作者在书中提出了不同的理论与观

点，还有许多需要读者琢磨和反思的问题。书中

的论点并非定论，而是希望读者能以不同的角度

思考这个课题。

日本刑警教你从笔迹看穿真实个性

葛西真彦著；李信伶译

索书号：363.2565 GXZ

版权所有。新北市：木马文化事业股份有限公司，2013。

你相信笔迹能反映一个人的个性吗？早在16世

纪，笔迹心理学的邹形就已经存在。演变至今，

笔迹分析已有实际用途，能运用在罪案分析和企

业人事甄选等。作者曾是名日本刑警，并在书中

以实际的例子为读者揭开笔迹分析的奥秘。

谱写虎标传奇：胡文虎及其创业文化史

沈仪婷著

索书号：SING 338.04092 SYT

版权所有。新加坡：新加坡国立大学中文系，2013。

号称“万金油大王”的胡文虎继承父业后创制的

虎标产品驰名各地。身处在战争与政治变革的时

代，胡文虎掌握了社会环境带来的机遇，扩展了

自己在中外各地的药业、报业和慈善事业。在新

马的发展史上，他筹建的各个机构，带动了本地

民生、教育、体育和文化方面的发展。此书以文

化史的角度详尽审视这位客家商人精彩的人生。

漏网之鱼

文：郑惠珍；史哲源

好书介绍

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跑过裂谷 娜欧蜜•贝那隆著；闻若婷译索书号：BENN -[AW]版权所有。台北市：马可孛罗文化，2013。

十三岁的尚派翠克是卢旺达的图西人。当卢旺达遭到种族仇恨撕裂，内战开始蔓延之际，尚派翠克惟有佯装成胡图族人接受长跑训练，才能代表国家，奔向奥运梦想。这本让人揪心的小说深刻地描绘出即便在种族矛盾的世界里，善良与毅力是不会被磨灭的。小说发人深省，值得一读。

寻找张爱玲西岭雪著索书号：XILX版权所有。广州市：花城出版社，2014。

顾锦盒是个超级“张迷”。她不仅热爱张爱玲的作品，甚至有个异想天开的梦想，那就是见张爱玲一面。于是，锦盒离乡背井来到上海，一心希望寻找张爱玲的足迹。锦盒在工作中结识了沈曹，他所研发的“时间大神”能让她穿梭时空回到过去与张爱玲见面。然而，每一次穿越时光隧道，都会间接影响了锦盒的情感生活。她所经历的悲欢离合，究竟是命中注定还是事在人为？

无鬼咖啡馆Yang著索书号：YANX版权所有。新北市：缪思出版，2013。

《无鬼咖啡店》是一本都会神幻小说，带有浓烈的东方神话色彩与纯爱元素。女娲、众妖、神仙等不约而同地来到这与众不同的咖啡店，重述妲己与纣王的感情纠葛与女娲补天的遗石在人间的际遇。原本不识情爱的众灵，在沾染人间的气息后，亦无法再对“情”字置身事外。

悠游书海

好书介绍

文：郑惠珍；王婷婷；史哲源

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