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Christy Graham, LPC S Registered Play Therapist SupervisorClinical Director, President of Acorn Counseling

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Child Teacher Relationship TrainingDenton Born, Denton StudiedCenter for Play Therapy is creating a certification program for training professionals in this modality.CDC is close to identifying this as an Evidence Based Intervention for children.Studies show it is more effective than Conscious Discipline AND PLAY THERAPY in several areas.Taught in 10 sessions. COST EFFECTIVEDevelopmentally and culturally sensitive intervention*Parent or Teacher

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Brief Overview of CTRTDidactic Teaching of SkillsActive Listening SkillsACT before its too late!Choice GivingEncouragement VS Praise

Brief Overview ContinuedExperiential Teaching of SkillsIncludes a group dynamic In the group dynamic, there are role playing, modelling exercises.Practicum portion:Child of Focus Videotaped Special Play TimeGroup SupervisionTHIS IS THE GAME CHANGER!!!

Acknowledge FeelingWhen you accurately reflect someones feelings:You join with them.They do not have to demonstrate their feelings as much. They know you get it. It may solve the problem right there.

Acknowledge the FeelingVideo

Look for the feelingCheck his face!

Acknowledge the Feeling

Group up!Each table has handouts. We will go through a practice one as a large group. Then your table will practice together.

Practice!

Child: Adam is telling you all the things hes going to show Grandma and Grandpa when they get to your house.Child Felt: Excited, Happy, GladAdult Response: Youre excited that Grandma &Grandpaare coming.

Child: Sally gets in the car after school and tells you that Bert, the class pet hamster, diedand then tells you about how she was in charge of feeding Bert last week and how he would look at her and then get on his wheel and run.Child Felt: Sad, DisappointedAdult Response: You're sad that Bert died.

Practice!

Child: Andy was playing with his friend, Harry, when Harry grabbed Andys fire truck and wouldnt give it back. Andy tried to get it back and the ladder broke off. Andy comes to you crying and tells you what happened and that its all Harrys fault.

Child Felt: Mad, Angry, Upset Adult Response: Youre really mad at Harry.

Practice!

Child: Sarah was playing in the garage while you were cleaning it out, when a big box of books falls off the shelf and hits the floor behind her. She jumps up and runs over to you.

Child Felt: Scared, Surprised (depends on child s facial expression)Adult Response: 1)That (scared, surprised ...) you!

Practice!

Get out your worksheet and work with your Home Table to practice Acknowledging the feeling!15

Acknowledge the FeelingWhen we acknowledge the feelings of others they no longer have to use their behavior to convince us or show us their feelings.they feel cared for, understood. They join with us.we honor them.we give ourselves time to figure out the next step.

Large Group SharingFill in the blank:I learned about me: I learned about my tablemates:This is both more simple than it seems and harder than it seems.

Communicate the LimitThere are specific limits in every relationship. Everyone must be safeEveryone must be respectedEveryone takes care of our stuffBe clearUse the same ones over and over so that it trains their brains to think the limit before the behavior. It takes 40 to 50,000 repetitions to automate something in muscle memory. We want these limits to be concrete in their thinking!

Commonly Used LimitsIts probably not a good idea to paint the wall.

Message: Im really not sure whether or not its okay to paint the wall. It might be okay or it might not.

Commonly Used LimitsYou cant paint the walls in here.

Message: You might be able to paint the walls in the other room.

Commonly Used LimitsI cant let you paint the wall.

Message: What you do is my responsibility and not your responsibility.

Commonly Used LimitsMaybe you could paint something else other than the wall.

Message: Maybe you can paint the furniture.

Commonly Used LimitsThe rule is you cant paint the wall.

Message: How you feel about it doesnt matter.

Best LimitThe wall is not for painting on.

Message: Youre not bad for wanting to, its just not for anyone to paint on.

PracticeTurn to your group and talk about limits you set on a daily basis at school or work.Role Play ACT with a partner while the others watch.Watchers-Encourage them! Whoop when they acknowledge a feeling, give them an shout if they state a clear limit, and high five if they give alternatives that would be acceptable to all.

Large Group SharingFill in the blank:I learned about me: I learned about my tablemates:This is both more simple than it seems and harder than it seems.

Target an Acceptable AlternativeYou can take the medication with orange juice or apple juice.Give options that all can live withGive alternatives that are not punishmentsDo not give alternatives you dont want the person to choose.

Choice Giving After NonComplianceChildren choose not to comply with us sometimes. What happens then is Crucial!Providing children with age appropriate choices :empowers themprovides opportunities for decision-making/problem-solvingreduces power struggles

Choice GivingChoices are equally acceptable to allDoes not include manipulations to get them to choose what you want them to have.Little Choices for Little Kids, Big Choices for Big Kids

Advanced Choice GivingOreo Cookie Theory: Sara, you can choose to keep one of the cookies to eat and put the rest back, or you can choose to put all the cookies backwhich do you choose?

Hint: use choose lots of times.

New Rules/Policies using ChoicesWe are about to institute a new and significant policy within the confines of this domicile! When you choose to pick up your toys before dinner, you choose to watch 30 minutes of TV after dinner. When you choose not to pick up your toys before dinner, you choose not to watch TV after dinner.Warn them 10 minutes before dinner: Dinner will be ready in 10 minutes. Its time to pick up your toys.

Option 1: NoncompliantThey are NOT picked up.Dont say anything right away. Have dinner, then announce, It looks like you have chosen not to watch TV for this night. DO NOT ALLOW THEM TO WATCH TV and reiterate their choice using ACT: You want to watch TV, but when you chose not to pick up your toys, you chose not to watch TV tonight. You can choose to pick up your toys tomorrow and watch TV tomorrow.

Option 2: CompliantThey have picked up most of their toys. Its time for dinner. It looks like you have chosen to watch TV tonight after dinner.

Choice Giving After NonComplianceYou have walked through Acknowledging Feelings, Communicating Limits, and Targeting Appropriate Alternatives.IT DID NOT WORK.Think about what didnt work. Discipline is not about controlling behavior. It is about training a child to be an effective adult.There isnt just a button we can press for compliance. They arent robots.

Your Choices!If you choose, fill out the Acorn specific feedback sheet. Choose to fill out the non-private section and choose to enter a drawing for a wonderful book!If you choose to learn more about CTRT, to engage in our coaching/mentoring program, choose to email me and set up a call. Then you will choose to change your life and the life of the children around you.

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