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Program Managers at Star Vista in Redwood City, CA came together on March 27 to learn more about how they can grow the practice of Empathy in their work and their programs. This is part of the Compassionate Conversations Coaching Project with Redwood City 2020 and Community Network for Youth Development.
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Compassionate Conversations
Star Vista Coaching ProjectSession 1: EMPATHY
March 27, 2012By Lynn Johnson
with Shara Hannah Finerman Shadowspeaker
Consultant with Community Network for Youth Development (CNYD) and
Co-Founder/CEO, Glitter & Razz [email protected]
EMPATHY
Each of us has stories. We are better when we are able to tell them. We are
better when we are able to hear
them.
EMPATHY
Sympathy – “I’m sorry that happened to you.”
Empathy – “I see your pain and I understand.”
Compassion – “How do you need me to help?”
Compassion
Empathy
Sympathy
What is a Compassionate Community?
An interdependent group of people connected by passion, proximity, or both and care deeply for the well-being of each other
“There is great strength in the closeness of the connections we build through interdependence, and this is ultimately the strength of a community. A community of completely independent people is a not a community at all.”
- Mary Gordon, Founder, Roots of Empathy
The 7 Elements of a Compassionate Community
Art
Empathy
Gratitude
Peaceful & Powerful
InteractionsHonor Altruism
Play
Empathy
Get quiet & present Listen to and Share
our Stories Identify & Accept
all Feelings Example Practices:
› Journalism/Interviews› Playback Theater› Emotion Coaching
The ability to recognize, understand, and relate to the humanity in each other.
History of this Coaching Project
Intercultural Connections in Redwood City 2010-11› More space for conversations› More tools to lead conversations
October 2011Convening› Playback Theater› A Conversation Café
Compassionate Conversations› Sharing these tools throughout Redwood
City
Agenda for Today
Icebreaker: Super-sized Name Tag Introductions: Setting the Stage Warm-Up: Getting Quiet & Present Listen to & Share our Stories: Playback
Theater Short Break Identify & Accept all Feelings: Strategies
for growing Empathy in Star Vista programs
Closing
Compassionate Conversation Requests
Be Here Say Yes! Assume the
Best Seek
Opportunity in the Discomfort
Share Your Story: Empathy at Star Vista Share your Story of
“Empathy in Action” or “An Empathy Deficit”
Youth, colleagues or both
Beginning, Middle, End
Focus on Feelings
Empathy: Playback Theater Improvisational
art form of story sharing
Master “Empathizers”
Forms that can be practiced
Children Full of Life: Reflections What did you notice
about the practice of Empathy in this video?
How did Empathy change the community of this classroom?
How could you apply these lessons to your class, program, organization?
EMPATHY
What strategies can we use to help Empathy
grow in our programs at Star Vista?
Strategies: Emotion Coaching
1. Recognize that the person is having feelings
2. Empathize by validating and labeling the feelings
3. Set boundaries regarding the behaviors that result from the feelings
Strategies: Emotion CoachingWhat else?1. Notebook letters…2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9.
Beyond this Session … Play-work |Our “textbook”
http://compassionateconversations.tumblr.com Password: compassion
Weekly Reminder Emails, each Wednesday Trying 3 activities with Youth from today and/or
the blog Posting reflections, questions, stories to the blog Schedule a check-in call with Shara/Lynn
(optional)
