- 1. Pastoral Counseling Session 3
2. Overcoming the Dark Side of Leadership- The Paradox of
Personal Dysfunction (chap. 1) By Gary L. McIntosh & Samuel D.
Rima Pause and Reflect 3. The Dark Side (Quotes)
- It is the inner urges, compulsions, and dysfunctions of our
personality that often go unexamined or remain unknown to us until
we experience until we experience an emotional explosion (p.
22)
4. The Dark Side (Quotes)
- This denial and repression along with the resulting emotional
explosion are particularly common among religious leaders who feel
the constant need to be in total control of their lives so they can
effectively minister to others. (p. 23)
5. The Dark Side (Quotes)
- The Dark Side is a normal development of life and can be an
agent for both good and bad in our lives. (p. 29)
6. Understanding The Ministry
- The role of a PATH Blazer
7. Prophet
- Foretelling(future) VS. Forthtelling(present)
- Some scholars suggest that the term prophet stressed the
objective or active work of Gods spokesman
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http://www.christiancourier.com/articles/35-principles-of-bible-prophecy
8. Prophet
- Foretellingversus Forthtelling
- Some scholars suggest that the term prophet stressed the
objective or active work of Gods spokesman
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http://www.christiancourier.com/articles/35-principles-of-bible-prophecy
We are to pointpeople back to God! 9. Presence
- John 14:16 - "I will ask the Father, and He will give you
another Helper
- THE HOLY SPIRIT IN US AND THROUGH US
Gr. Paraklesis, which means to come along side to encourage a
helper Incarnational Ministry 10. Partner
- Gal. 6:2 Carry each other's burdens, and in this way you will
fulfill the law of Christ.
- WE ARE TO HELP AND NOT TAKE OVER
11. Priest
- To bring the needs of people before God and to offerHOPE
12. Path Blazer
- To help people discover God in their situation, difficulty, and
themselves.
13. Definition
- Pastoral Counseling is the ministry God has entrusted to His
under shepherds by ASSISTING people go through pressures in life,
HELPING them rise up when people are done and out, SUPPORTING them
adjust in the changes of their seasons, GUIDING them discern Gods
will for their lives, and also to BOOST their desire for growth and
productivity. This will be pursued in the knowledge that God wants
his people to live life to fullest because that is the very will
ofGod. H. Cruz
14. 5 Key Words
15. Guiding People Their Seasons 16. Sharing Time:
- After reading the chapter on Overcoming the Dark Side of
Leadership, what have you learned personally and how does it apply
to your life today?
17. I. In This Kingdom 18. A. 2 Agendas
- The thief comes tosteal , tokill , and todestroy , but I came
that you might havelifeand have it more abundantly.
19.
- For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against
rulers, against authorities, against powers of this dark world and
against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms.
B. 2 Kingdoms 20. C. Complications
- Do notconformany longer to the pattern of this world,
betransformedby the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to
test and approve what Gods will is his good pleasing and perfect
will.
21. D. Inside out
- The change happens from inside out through the Renewing of the
mind
22. E. Theshape of many minds
- Many minds have been shaped by negative upbringing, lifes
traumas, dysfunctional families, inadequate parenting, and also our
fallen human race.
- TRUMA The Pain That Stays Roberts Hicks (Introduction page
5)
23. F. The dark Side
24. Sin
- I do not understand what I do. For what I want to do I do not
do, but what I hate I do.Romans 7:15
Inclination to SIN 25. Dysfunctional Background
26. Dark Side Develops
27. Fertile Ground
- Place of power or influence
28. Explosion
- When you least expect it, when you are least prepared it
happens.
Often it happens when we are at our peak 29. Rev. Ted
Haggard
- In November 2006, prostitute and masseur Mike Jones alleged
that Haggard had paid Jones to engage in sex with him for three
years and had also purchased and used crystal methamphetamine
.
30. Rev. Ted Haggard
- In November 2006, prostitute and masseur Mike Jones alleged
that Haggard had paid Jones to engage in sex with him for three
years and had also purchased and used crystal methamphetamine
.
"Had given into his dark side" 31. Rev. Jimmy Swaggart
- Jimmy Lee Swaggart a Pastor and televangelist who was involved
in a high-profile 1988 sex scandal. His 1980s' telecast was
transmitted to over 3,000 stations and cable systems each
week.
- (1988 a nd 1991 scandals)
32. Rev. Jim Baker
- James Orsen "Jim" Bakkeris an American televangelist, a former
Assemblies of God minister, and a former host of The PTL Club, a
popular evangelical Christiantelevision program. A sex scandal led
to his resignation from the ministry.
33. Rev. Jim Baker
- James Orsen "Jim" Bakkeris an American televangelist, a former
Assemblies of God minister, and a former host of The PTL Club, a
popular evangelical Christiantelevision program. A sex scandal led
to his resignation from the ministry.
My dream became bigger and bigger. And the box got bigger than
the message, than the Gospel. 34. Senator Larry Craig
- Larry Edwin Craig is a former Republican politician from the
U.S. stateof Idaho. On August 27, 2007, the Capitol Hill newspaper
Roll Call revealed that Craig had been arrested for lewd conduct in
the men's restroom.
35. President Nixon
- The scandal ultimately led to the resignation of the United
States President Richard Nixon on August 9, 1974, the first and so
far only resignation of any U.S President.
36. President Nixon
- The scandal ultimately led to the resignation of the United
States President Richard Nixon on August 9, 1974, the first and so
far only resignation of any U.S President.
I can see clearly now... that I was wrong in not acting more
decisively and more forthrightly in dealing with Watergate... 37.
Kris Aquino
- Kristina Bernadette Cojuangco Aquino-Yapis a Filipino
television and movie personality who gained prominence from her
talk shows, game shows, and numerous endorsements. She is the
youngest daughter of former Philippine senator Benigno Aquino,
Jr.
38. Kris Aquino
- Kristina Bernadette Cojuangco Aquino-Yapis a Filipino
television and movie personality who gained prominence from her
talk shows, game shows, and numerous endorsements. She is the
youngest daughter of former Philippine senator Benigno Aquino,
Jr.
"controlling and domineering" 39. US Teachers involved in
scandal 40. Whos next? 41. For your own sake and the people around
you, do not add your name to the list please! 42. The Dark Side of
Leadership
- When a leader commits adultery, embezzles money from the
church, or gets caught exposing himself, the most frequent
explanation among the ranks of the faithful is "Boy, the devil sure
is working overtime," with little attention given to the realities
of human dysfunction. (p. 155)
43. The following we are to watch out for PRIDE, SELFISHNESS,
SELF-DECEIT AND WRONG MOTIVES because if it is present in the life
of a leader, it becomes a sure recipe for disaster. 44. 5 different
types of unhealthy leadership patterns 45. 1. Compulsive Leader
- Rigid, stifles creativity, self-righteous, legalistic,
workaholic, emotional explosion, very controlling
46. 2. Narcissistic Leader
- Attention seeker, utilitarian, appetite for bigger
achievements, can leadto unethical and illegal behavior
47. 3. Paranoid Leader
- State of denial, distrust of people around him/her, cannot be
intimate with others
48. 4. Codependent Leader
- Addiction to make others happy even at the price of ignoring
the needs of his own family, . Burnout, divorce, adulterous
affairs, and physical illness is common
49. 5. Passive-Aggressive Leader
- Out of control outburst, erratic and strange behavior, confuse
whyhe/she is not liked by others
50. Conclusion: Possible Responses
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54. Jesus and His Intent for Us
- Very few of them are living a joyful life Christian life
because their emotion are not connected to the truth about who God
is. The inability to connect emotions to the truth is one of the
most tragic circumstances facing the church today
- David Eckman Becoming Who God Intended
55. Reflect:
- In the five different types of unhealthy leadership patterns
that were presented, which one do I have to personally watch out
for and why so?
56. Reminders
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57. Our Intention
58. II. The Kingdom of God
- B. The Counselor and the KOG
- 1. Image and likeness of God vs. Tao lang ako
- 2. Gods perspective of us vs. Our distorted beliefs about
us
- Who we really are vs. Who we want to be
