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AComplexProcess
• WeneverstopcommunicaAngfromfirsttolastbreath
• Thestruggletobeunderstood
• Thestruggletounderstandothers
Verbal
• Thewordswespeak
• Developsfromtwelvemonthsonward
• AidsdescripAonofourthoughtsandfeelings
• Cancauseconfusion!!!
Vocal
• Thesoundsweomitfromourvocalchords
• Emphasisesmeaning‐emoAon,passion,intensity,negaAvity
• Includestone,volume,punctuaAon
NonVocal
• NosoundjustacAon!
• Powerfulre‐enforcerofbothverbalandvocalcommunicaAon
• OncedevelopedBodyLanguageisconsistentthroughoutlifeAme
InfluencesonCommunicaAon
• Theenvironmentwefindourselvesin
• Themoodwearein
• TherelaAonshipwithotherspresent
• InnerDialogue(SelfTalk)
OtherInfluences
• OurpercepAonofthetask
• OurpercepAonofourownabilitytocompleteatask
• Thestruggleforbalancebetweentheabove
TheSupermarketExperience
• Parentandtoddler‐sharedexperiencebutdifferentmoAvaAon
• Parenthastasktocomplete
• Childhasotherideas!!• Parentperceivesdifficulty
• Childperceivespleasure• LetbaUlecommence!
TheParent
• UsesnegaAveverbalisaAon
• “Stopit”,“leaveit”,“don’t”and“Ohgod!”
• Anxious,hurried,distracted
• Awareofaudience
TheChild
• SAmulated,aroused,excited• Smiling,running,touching
• Poking,tasAng,spilling• WellmoAvatedforchaos!
• Notinterestedinaudience• PosiAveinnerdialogue
TheOutcome
• Parentfightsforcontrol• Parentbecomesincreasinglyanxious
• Anxietyflipstoanger• Parentlosescontrol• PosiAvecommunicaAonbreaksdown
• ParentinadvertantlyrewardsnegaAvebehaviour• Experiencesparentalguilt• Associatessupermarketwithstress
OutcomeForChild
• LearnshowtogainrewardsthroughnegaAvebehaviour
• Connectspublicplacestoanxiety• ConfusedreadultcommunicaAon‐mixedmessages
• Getsabellyfullofsugar!
AnxietyAndCommunicaAon
• ThemoreanxiousapersonthepoorerthecommunicaAon
• MoreuseofverbalcommunicaAon
• Cantseethewoodsforthetrees• ThoughtsandacAonsspeededup• CogniAvefuncAonimpaired‐becomeirraAonal
AnxietyAndCommunicaAon(cont)
• AnxietyismoreinfecAousthantheflu!• Wecommunicateanxietyunconsciously
• Westorememoriesofpastanxiousencounters
• WeassumethatpastdifficulAeswillberepeated
• Themerethoughtofanupcomingencountercreatesanxiety
GetMeOutOfHere!
• UnchallengedtheanxietydevelopsintoFight/Flight
• Avoidancebehavioursdevelop• Selfconfidenceandselfesteemdiminish• RelaAonshipssuffer• MoAvaAondecreases• TheAnxietyCycleconAnues• EffecAvecommunicaAonbreaksdown
ERT(EmergencyRelaxaAonTechnique)
• Say“Stop”toyourself• Breathein(deep)• Dropshoulders• Breathein• Relaxfaceandjaw• Breathein• Tellyourselftoslowdown
INNERDIALOGUE
• IsyourSelfTalk• CanbeposiAveornegaAve• Impactsonyourmentalhealth• Canbechanged• Mustbechallenged• IsyourcoreareaforselfmoAvaAon• Wecaninfluencetheinnerdialogueofothers
• Wecannotcontroltheinnerdialogueofothers
HelpingYourself
• Beawareofyourmood
• Beawareofyourhistorywithintheenvironment• BeawareofyourhistorywithinworkrelaAonships• Playtoyourstrengths• Manipulateyourenvironment• Encouragefeedback• Thequickestwaytohelpapersonchangethewaytheycommunicateistochangethewayyoucommunicate
Calming • Use ERT on self • Use non verbal behaviour • Encourage Child to talk or refocus • Offer reassurance to Child • Proceed gradually (beware of moving too fast) • Anticipate challenging behaviours • Avoid audiences (other Children/Adults can
exacerbate situation)
Controlling • Break issues into component parts • Offer alternatives - encourage Child to consider more constructive
methods of expression • Attempt to structure Childrens/peoples
expectations - identify what Child wants/needs • Present both sides of the issues - listen to Childs view and present yours