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Nh Gnh Lo u Ha thng Sri Dhammananda

Phm Kim Khnh dch Vit

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http://www.quangduc.comChuyn sang ebook 26-5-2009

Ngi thc hin : Nam Thin [email protected] Link Audio Ti Website http://www.phatphaponline.org

Mc Lc

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Bn c lo u khng? Bn c cm thy khn kh khng? Nu c, hy chmch c quyn sch nh ny. Nhng dng ch sau y c vit ra cho bn v cho nhng ai cn mi lo u v nhng iu khng ng lo - lo sut

i, lo n cht!Lo u v khn kh l cp t hi lun lun i song vi nhau nh hai con bitrng. C hai t hi ny cng sng v cng cht vi nhau, trn th gian ny. Nu bn lo u, t bn cm thy khn kh. Nu bn cm thy khn kh, bn lo u. Chng ta phi i ph vi nhng s kin ca i sng, phing u vi nhng din tin khc nhau ca kip nhn sinh. Mc du
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khng th ln trnh chng, ta khng nn cho cp t hi lo u v khn khtrn ngp v khc phc ta. Tri li, phi khc phc chng, v ta c khnng lm vic ny. iu cn thit l phi hng dn thch ng mi cgng, mi quyt tm v kin nhn ca chng ta. Nu hiu bit s vt mtcch chn chnh, v thn trng p dng tr no thng minh mn v sng sutca chng ta vo mi vic lm t chng ta c th ch ng c nhng cmxc v thot ra khi mi lo u v khn kh.

Nhng mi lo u ca ta l con ca chnh ta. Chnh t ta to n trong tm,v khng kh nng, hay v tht bi, khng hiu c v khng c lngc trn vn nhng cm xc t nhiu v k ca ta v v ta lng nh qung hay sai lc phm gi ca s vt. Nu chng ta c th nhn s vt ngtrong bi cnh ca s vt, v thy rng khng c g l trng tn vnh cu,khng c g tn ti vng bn trong th gian ny v t ng ca chng ta ch l

tr tng tng hoang di, chy lon trong ci tm khng km ch, nh mttun m bt kham, ta s cn i mt on ng di, di dng, tm ra phng thc kh d tn dit chng bnh lo u v khn kh. Chng ta phi ttrau di tm tr, t qun mnh, dn thn vo nhng cng tc phc v nhnloi v tr nn ngi hu ch cho nhn qun x hi. l mt trongnhng ng li m, noi theo chng ta c th tm n an tnh v hnh phc tht s.

Nhiu ngi c nhng ham mun v nhng kht vng, nhng lo u v s stm chnh h cng cm thy h thn, khng dm nhn, du l m thm tnhn trong lng. H khng bit lm th no cho nhng cm xc y trnn cao thng hn. Tuy nhin, nhng xc ng y c mt nng lc. Du hlm cch no nn, dn p v che y, n cng tm li thot v khithot ra, lm xo trn gung my c th vt cht ny v gy nn nhngchng bnh kinh nin. Ta c th sa i nhng iu y bng cc phng php tham thin thch ng, tc ch ng ci tm, bi v mt tm hn bunglung l nguyn nhn chnh to nn nhng lo u tng tr.

Bt lun lc no m bn lo u trong lng, ch nn ph trng gng mt

phin mun ca bn trc tt c mi ngi. Ch nn tm s vi nhng aitht s c th gip bn. Trong lc kh khn m bn phi tri qua trn ngi, nu bn c th lun lun gi c n ci trm tnh th qu tht l ttp. iu ny khng phi l qu kh nu ta tht s c gng. Nhiu thanhnin qu i lo u phin mun khi mt tnh thng ca ngi bn gi. Trongnhng hon cnh bt mn v tht vng tng t vi ngi ngh n quynsinh tnh mng, c ngi phi lon tr, phn ln t thy khn kh v cng.


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Tt c nhng bt hnh y u do ni s km hiu bit v bn cht tht sca i sng. Du sao i na, chng ta khng th trnh nhng cnh chia lyxa bit. Ta c th phn la nhau t bui u, c th on gia, hoc na,vo lc cui cng ca cuc i, nhng chc chn khng th trnh. Khinhng s kin nh vy xy ra, ta phi c gng tm hiu nguyn nhn ti sao. Nu cnh bit ly y vt ra ngoi kh nng kim sot ca ta, hy c canm chu ng v hy nhn nh rng l bn cht ca i sng.

"Bt lun ni no m s hi pht sanh, n ch pht sanh hng in cung,khng pht sanh n ngi tr", c Pht dy nh vy.

S hi ch l mt trng thi tm. Trng thi tm ca ta phi c kim sotv hng dn. Dng n mt cch tiu cc t c s st. c dng mt cchtch cc, n s em li hi vng v cho ta nhng l tng trong i sng. V

dng n nh th no l hon ton do ta quyt nh. Mi ngi u c khnng kim sot tm. Ch c mt vic m con ngi c th kim sot cmt cch tuyt i, l t tng ca mnh. S kin ny - cng vi s kinxc thc khc l tt c nhng g m con ngi to nn u phi bt u trongt tng - a ta xch li gn nguyn tc theo ta c th khc phc tnh sst.

Khi c mt sinh vin hi v phng php hu hiu nhc ch ng citm, mt nh c th hc tr danh ngi Anh tr li: "Hy c gng lm iug cho mt ngi no".

Chng sinh vin ly lm ngc nhin vi cu gii p c v b n y v xingio s ri sng thm vn .

"Bn khng th c hai loi t tng tri ngc nhau cng mt lc", v gios gii thch, "nhng t tng ny s xua ui cc t tng kia. Th d nhnu tm ca bn hon ton chm ch vo vic gip ngi khc m khngmy may v li th cng lc y bn khng th s st".

"S lo u lm cn ging mu trong c th, sm hn l tui gi". Cng t shi, t lo u v phin mun, sc kho v tui th cng c bo tn tt pMi mi s st v khng ngng lo u l k th t hi nht cho c th conngi. N lm xo trn hot ng bnh thng ca c th.

Nu bn bit lm vui lng ngi khc, bn s c mt gng mt lun lunti tnh. l v bn khng cho nhng lo u pht sanh trong lng.


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Ting gi ca thin nhin

thnh t cc li ch vt cht, con ngi hin i khng lng tai ngheting gi ca thin nhin. Hot ng tinh thn ca con ngi hin mi chmch m tng hnh phc tng lai m lng qun nhu cu thit yu ca cth vt cht, v hon ton khng ngh n gi tr thc tin ca khonh khchin ti. Tc phong phn thin nhin ca nhn loi ngy nay l hu qu tckhc ca nhng quan nim sai lc v trt t th gian, v kip nhn sinh, vv mc tiu ti hu ca i sng. l nguyn nhn ca tt c mi bt mnmi lo u, s st, v mi hon cnh bt n ca thi hin i. Ngi tht smong mun ho bnh phi gi mnh, khng lm xo trn t do ca kkhc. Tm hnh phc cho mnh bng cch lm xo trn ngi khc qu tht

l phng php sai lc!"Bn c th lm cho vi ngi mi mi tht vng, v lm cho tt c mingi tht vng vi hm, nhng bn khng th lm cho tt c mi ngi mimi tht vng". (Abraham Lincoln)

Nu con ngi hung bo v ti li mi mi sng ngc li vi nh lutthin nhin, nh lut v tr, con ngi s lm nhim ton th bu khngkh bng nhng hnh ng, li ni v t tng ca mnh. Hu qu d nhinca hnh ng v t tng sai lc tng t l thin nhin khng th to nnnhng g m con ngi cn phi c sng, trong lc y con ngi c th phi ng u vi nhng truyn nhim v nhng loi thin tai v cngnguy hi.

Ngc li, nu con ngi c mt np sng thch ng vi nh lut thinnhin v trt t v tr, nu con ngi c mt li sng chn chnh, thanh lc bu khng kh bng nhng cng c, bng phm hnh thanh cao v ri tmt ca mnh ba rng, bao trm tt c chng sanh, t con ngi s thay i bu kh quyn em li hu qu tt p cho hnh phc nhn loi.

Bn c th l mt ngi tn tin rt bn rn. Nhng ch qun b ra vi phttrong ngy c nhng trang sch c gi tr. Thi quen ny s gii khuy,gip bn qun i nhng mi lo u, v cng lc, gip bn trau di tm tr.Trong khi y, cng nn nh rng bn c mt tn gio. Tn gio phc v bn,em li ch n bn. Nh vy, chnh bn phn ca bn l suy t v tn gioca mnh v dnh vi pht trong ngy thc hnh nhng cng vi c tnhcch tn gio, hp theo l o.


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Sc kho tm linh v nhng khuynh hng ti li

V phng din sc kho, khng phi lao phi hay ung th l nhng chng bnh tai hi nht ca thi i chng ta. Hin nay, bnh lao phi hnh nh c kim sot v cng c nhiu hi vng rng trong mt tng lai khng xangi ta s tm ra phng thc tr liu cho bnh ung th. Trong thc t, minguy c quan trng nht ngy nay l s tng trng mau chng ca nhngchng bnh thuc v thn kinh v tr no. Ngoi ra cn nhiu ngi, tuythng khng c xem l bnh nhng rt cn, v hn ai ht, phi ccha tr.

Ngi ta c th hi ti sao nhng phn t ti li trong x hi li c nuln y cng mt lc vi cc bnh thn kinh. Mt trong nhng hu qu tchcc v su xa nht, dn p trc tip trong cng trnh kho cu ca Freud l

s nhn nhn rng nhng ngi gy ti c v phm php l nhng ngi bnh v tinh thn, cn phi c cha tr hn l hnh pht. Chnh ci nhn phng khong vo vn nh th y phi t nn tng cho tt c mi cicch x hi "cp tin", v m ng dn li n phng php ci thin, lmcho xu tr nn tt, hn l tr th.

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Hy bit ngi lng ging ca bn

Chng ta khng bao gi thy nhng ngi khc sng nh th no. Chng tacng c th khng bit g v i sng ca nhng ngi khng cng mt giaicp x hi vi chng ta, hoc km hn, hoc giu c sang trng hn ta. Nuta kho mnh, ta khng th bit c bnh hon l nh th no, v nu lngi n yu tt nguyn, ta s khng hiu c nng lc ca ngi di dosc kho ra sao.

V thiu kinh nghim nn ta qu kht khe, km khoan hng. c qung ikhoan dung ch pht sanh do s hiu bit. V nu khng c kinh nghim, tchng ta khng th hiu bit. Do , nn c nhiu kinh nghim, kinh nghimv mi phng din ca i sng, nht l nn i li y m rng tmmt, nhng khng nn lun lun dng nhng phng tin di do tin nghinht.

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Hnh phc con ngi


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c Pht dy rng tt c bt hnh ca con ngi u pht sanh t s hammun lm lc, mun nhng th vui m tin ca mua c, mun nhiuquyn th hn k khc, v quan trng hn tt c, mun tip tc mi mi sngsau khi cht. Chnh v ham mun nhng iu ny m con ngi tr nn vk, bi n lm cho con ngi ch ngh n ring mnh, ch mun cho ringmnh, v khng lo ngh n nhng g c th xy n ngi khc. V, bi v khng th thnh t tt c nhng g mnh mong mun, con ngi lunlun lo u v bt toi nguyn. Phng php duy nht trnh tnh trng btn ny l phi thot ra khi nguyn nhn sanh ra n, tc vt qua khi miham mun. iu ny rt kh lm. Nhng, ai thnh tu vin mn s tn trng thi ton ho v an tnh.

Khng phi chng ta tha thch th hng nhng th vui m chnh th vuich ng, khc phc chng ta, bt chng ta lm n l cho n. mu tm th

vui, chng ta khng ngng lo u v lun lun tiu hao nng lc. Trong thgian lun lun bin i ny chng ta thng kh nhiu hn l tha thch thhng khi chy theo, rt bt cc th vui.

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Thi gian s hn gn cc vt thng

Phin no tri qua. iu g lm cho bn au xt ri ly hm nay s sm livo d vng v bin tan trong qun lng. Bn c th s cn nh rng bn c khc, nhng chc bn s khng cn nh mi iu g lm bn khc.Chng ta ang trng thnh, v chng ta ang tri qua mt kip sng. Nuti sao thao thc sut m trng than khc mt bin c bt hnh xy nngy hm trc, hay ti sao m p mt mi hn th i vi ngi no v tisao tip tc cho nhng t tng tng t t do gy xo trn trong tm.Chng ta c th b cn gin d li cun i xa v v sau ly lm kinh ngcthy rng chnh ta l ngi ni gin. ngc nhin, t chng ta c th nhnthc rng chng ta phung ph bit bao th gi v nng lc, rng chng ta t to cho mnh bao nhiu bt hnh, trong lc m ta c th chn ng nv bt u ngh n vic khc.

Du phin no nh th no, du lo u su mun ra sao, thi gian s gn linnhng vt thng. Nhng, trong hin ti, chc chn phi c mt iu no mta c th lm c cp thi khi b tn thng. Ti sao chng ta li cho ngi khc v phin no lm gim suy nng lc v lm cho ta bt hnh?


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Cu gii p l, l d nhin, khng phi ngi khc v phin no m chnh ta lm cho ta bt hnh.

Bn c th gp mt vi bc dc trong s hay mt ni no khc m bn lmvic, khng nn mang theo, hay ko di nhng bc dc y v n nh vnh vy to khng kh nng n trong gia nh.

Bn phi nhn thc rng c mt phng thuc tr liu hay mt phng cch chm dt nhng vn phin phc y. l phi thot ra khi nhngham mun ch k v v trt t ca chng ta v tn dit mi hnh thc hnlon v v minh.

Mi khi ta khng tm ra gii php cho mt vn , thng ta c khuynhhng tm ni li, mt ngi no m ta c th trt ht gnh nng t

li. Chng ta khng sn sng chp nhn nhng thiu km ca mnh. Chngta cm thy rng li cho ngi khc v nui dng mi cm th l ddng hn. Trong thc t vi ngi trong chng ta lm nh vy. l thi hon ton sai lc. Khng nn phin h hay gin di ai khc. Chng ta phi ht sc c gng, tn dng kh nng, v trm tnh gii quyt nhng vn ca chng ta, phi sn sng i ph vi bt lun kh khn no m ta gp phi trn ng i.

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Hnh phc v ch thuyt vt cht Nhiu ngi lm tng rng h c th gii quyt tt c mi vn nu ctin, nhng h khng nhn thc rng chnh tin ca v s nghip cng mangtheo nhng vn ca n. Ring "tin ca" khng th gii quyt tt c mkh khn.

Nhiu ngi khng bao gi bit nh vy, v xuyn qua sut kip sng htn dng mi nng lc c gng tch t "iu ny" v "vt n". n khi t c ri h cm thy rng bao nhiu cng cha lm h tha mn, mcn phi tch t thm na nhng "iu ny" v nhng "vt n" khc. Trongthc t, cng c nhiu h cng mun c thm v nh th khng bao gih an vui hay bit l .

Khi ta nh mt mt vt g, li khuyn sau u s em n ta mt nim an il thng:


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"ng ni rng ci ny l ca anh, v ci kia ca ti,Ch ni ci ny n vi anh, ci kia vi ti. Nh vy chng ta c th khng luyn tic ci nh sng ang phai m.Ca tt c nhng vt rc r vinh quang m nay khng cn na".

Ti sn khng phi l ci g ta giu ct mt ni ri kht khao tm thmna. N phi l ci g ta s dng hu em li an lnh, cho ta v cho kkhc. Nu bn tri qua sut thi gian ca mnh bm bu vo ti sn snghim m khng ngh n bn phn i vi quc gia, vi ng bo v tngio ca bn, c th mt ngy kia, khi n lc, bn s phi ra i vi tm hny lo u s st v b li tt c trn th gian ny. Bn s khng th thhng ti sn m bn kh nhc dnh dm.

Hi vng c c tin ca v li lc bng cch c bc cng ging nh ng

ngoi tri v mong c nhng m my che nng. Trong khi y, mu tm tin b v thnh vng bng cch chuyn cn lm vic th ging nh xy ct nhca kin c nng che ma.

"Ti sn s nghip s li sau khi bn ra i. Thn bng v quyn thuc sa bn n phn m. Nhng, ch c nhng hnh ng tt v xu ca bntrong kip sng s theo bn qua bn kia nm m".

Nhiu vic m ta c vng bao nhiu s em li hnh phc, lm cho tatht vng khi t c n, nh ba iu c trong truy c n . "C nhiutin ca!", nghe chng nh l mt ci g tuyt diu! Cn g tt p hn? Nhng khi t c ri, c th ta cm thy rng chnh n em li cho tanhng lo u mi, nh vic phi s dng n bng cch no, lm sao gngi n, hoc na, c th n dn dt ta n nhng hnh ng in r. Ngigiu tin ca bt u thc mc tm hiu, xem bn b ca mnh c nh gimnh bng chnh gi tr ring ca mnh hay ch bng tin ca mnh ang c.y cng l mt hnh thc phin mun thuc v tinh thn. V lun lun ctnh trng nm np s mt ci g c. Ci "c" ny c th l tin ca haymt ngi thn. Nh vy, khi ta thnh tht nhn r vo bn trong ci m tagi l "hnh phc" chng ta thy rng ch l mt o nh lng l pht hintrong tm m khng bao gi chng ta nm ly c, khng bao gi trn vn,khng bao gi y , hot t lm n cng mang theo tnh cht s st, s mt i.

Tin ca ch trang tr cho ci nh ca bn, khng th trang tr cho chnh bn.Ch c nhng phm hnh cao thng ca bn mi c th lm cho bn tr


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nn p. Y phc ch lm p xc thn ca bn ch khng lm p bn. Chc tc phong trong sch v thanh cao ca bn trang tr bn.

Phng php p dng to hnh phc phi l mt phng php v hi,khng ng chm n quyn li ca bt c ai. Th hng hnh phc bngcch gy au thng cho mt ngi hay mt chng sanh khc th khng cngha l g. c Pht dy:

"Hnh phc thay! Nhng ai nui mng sng ca mnh m khng gy tn hin ai".

"Hnh phc l mt loi nc hoa m ta khng th rt ln trn mnh ngikhc, v cng lc, khi nh ri mt vi git trn mnh ta".

C l bn khng th thay i th gian cho n thch ng vi mun ca bn, nhng bn c th bin ci tm tr ca chnh bn mu tm hnh phc.

Ch khi no phi chu thng kh khi lm iu thin, bn mi c th thnhtu hnh phc cao thng hn ngi.

"Nu ta mun mu tm hnh phc, ch ngh n lng bit n hay bc bo, vch cho ra v nim vui c cho ra, thm kn bn trong. S bit n nh cnhhoa hng. Hoa hng th phi c vun bn, ti nc, sn sc, tng tiu vgn gi". -- (Dale Carnegie)

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Hy kim sot tm

Ci tm ca con ngi nh hng su xa n c th. Nu tm din tintheo chiu hng xu xa v kt np nhng t tng nhim n c th gynhiu tai hi, c th git cht mt chng sanh. Ngc li, tm cng c thcha khi mt chng bnh ca xc thn. Khi tm chm ch vo nhng ttng chn chnh, vi s c gng chn chnh v hiu bit sng sut, hu

qu ca n tht v cng ln lao. Mt ci tm linh khit v nhng t tngtrong sch tht s dn n mt kip sng kho mnh v an lnh. c Phtdy:

"Khng c k th no c th gy tai hi cho ai nhiu bng nhng t tngtham i, nhng t tng sn hn, nhng t tng ganh t, v.v... ca chnhta".


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Con ngi m khng bit iu chnh ci tm ca mnh thch ng vi honcnh th khng khc no mt xc cht nm trong quan ti.

Hy hng tm ca bn tr vo bn trong v c gng tm thch th bn trongchnh bn. Bn s tm thy ni y mt ngun thch th v tn lun lun snsng bn th hng.

Ch khi no c kim sot cht ch v c hng dn chn chnh theochiu tin b v trt t, tm mi tr thnh hu dng cho ngi lm ch nv cho x hi. Mt ci tm v trt t em li cho ngi lm ch n, v chonhiu ngi khc, tt c nhng tai hi trong th gian. Nhng tai hi y gynn bi nhng ngi khng bit kim sot tm v khng bit lm cho tmmnh c thn nhin, qun bnh, trm tnh.

Trm lng khng phi l yu t. Mt thi trm lng lun lun tiu biucho con ngi thun thc. Gi c thi trm lng khi mi vic uthun li th khng kh lm, nhng vn bnh tnh khi s vt xo tr?n quanhmnh th qu tht l kh. Chnh c tnh kh c th c ny l iu ng chota c gng thnh tu, bi v nh thnh tu v kim sot nh vy ta to nnmt c tnh n nh, vng chc. Ngh rng ch c nhng ngi n o, khocloc v lng xng ti ngy l mnh m v hng dng th qu tht l sai lm.

Hy hnh ng khn ngoan

Con ngi phi bit s dng tui tr, tin ca, quyn th, nng lc, v kinthc ca mnh vo ng lc, ng ni, ng phng cch v sng sut, gt hi li ch cho chnh mnh v cho ngi khc. Nu s dng sai lmnhng u th tng t, n ch em ta i xung. Con ngi phi mnh hay bit khi mnh yu, phi can m ng u vi s st, phi hngdng v bt khut khi tht bi, phi khim tn v du dng lc c thng.

Vi ngi c may mn bng chc tr nn giu c. Nhng trong nhngngi ny ch c mt s t bit bo tn ti sn va th c. Th thng, khc qu d, c m khng cn phi c gng v chuyn cn, ngi takhng lng nh ng mc gi tr ca vt th. Do ngi ta bt utiu xi phung ph vo nhng vic khng cn thit, v khng bao lu, tinca hao mn. Ta phi bit lm th no gi gn ti sn. Khng nn phung ph m phi s dng tin ca mt cch hu ch, cho ta v cho ngi khc.Mun vy, phi thn trng.

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Hy t sa mnh

Chng ta ang sng trong mt th gian lun lun bin i. Tuy nhin, rt tngi nhn thc iu ny. Ta khng nn m qung c bm vo nhng phongtc, nhng tp qun, nhng thi quen, v nhng tin tng m ngi xa vng b t tin chng ta lu truyn xung n chng ta, v khng nn ngh rng ta phi mi mi lm theo nh vy. Nhng ngh hp hi tng t khng th em li tin b. C nhng tp tc rt tt p m ta knh cn thlnh t tay ca ng b cha m, nhng vi c tc khc ch c th p dngthch nghi vo mt thi no. Ta phi thn trng xem xt, coi n cn hp vix hi hin i khng. ng khc, cha m v cc bc trng thng t khi tra khoan hng i vi li sng mi ca th h tr. Nhng v ny s ly lmvui m thy on hu tn cng c mt np sng nh mnh. Tuy nhin, khng phi l thi thch nghi nht. Hy cho n con tr di ng theo

nhp ca thi gian, nu iu ny khng hi. Ngi lm cha m vn nh lcthiu thi, chnh cha m ca mnh cng kht khe th no i vi li sngmi lc by gi. Cuc xung t gia nhng ngi bo th v lp bn trlun lun c xy ra. L d nhin, khi tr con b i sng tn tin li cun lmlc cha m nht nh phi khuyn d v hng dn chng tr v con ngchn chnh.

i vi quan kin v tp tc ca ngi khc, bn phi t ra khoan hng, mcdu khng thch. y, khoan hng khng c ngha l phi lm theo nhng ngh v l tng y.

Mi ngi l mt phn t ca th gian loi ngi, v nh vy, phi nhnlnh phn trch nhim ca mnh v nhng s vic din tin trong th giany. Mi ngi phi quan tm n nhng bin i trong x hi, phi lm chox hi cng tr nn tt p hn v cng mang nhiu sc thi nhn o hn.Mi ngi phi t hi, mnh lm g em li nn trt t cho s vt. yl mt quan kin c tnh cch o c, bao trm ln i sng sc thi trangnghim v ng c sng. Sng nh vy l c mt kip sng tht s hnh phc. Chng y chng ta s hn hoan bt u lm mt vic g ng c ca

ngi v c tnh cch xy dng.Du ngi ta c ph bnh v ch diu hnh ng ca bn chua cay th no,hy c thi ca ngi khn ngoan sng sut v p tr li bng mt nci hay mt cu ni a. Khng bao gi nn gy g.


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Khi chi mt tr chi, bn khng nn t ra nng gin, v nh th, chngnhng bn lm cho ngi khc mt vui m chnh bn cng khng thch th,v sau cng, bn c th tht bi hon ton.

Bn khng th sa i tng ngi v tt c mi ngi trn th gian ny to cnh thanh bnh l tng, cng nh bn khng th dn dp tt c sigp ghnh v gai gc trn ng i. Ngi mun an ton trn con ng phi mang vo mt i giy, v thn trng tng bc. Cng th y, ngimun sng an tnh, mun tm hn c thanh thn, phi bit thu thc lccn, tit ch tham vng.

C nhiu li khc nhau sa i mt ngi lm ng lc no. Bng cchch trch, khin trch v la ry trc cng chng bn khng th thnh cngsa i ai ht. Khng nn lm mt lng. Nhiu ngi to thm k th v ch

trch ngi khc. Ngi n hnh ng lm lc. Nu bn c th n tn nhcnh h vi lng thnh tht mun ci thin, chc chn h s nghe theo, vmt ngy no h s cm n lng tt v s hng dn sng sut ca bn.

Bt lun lc no m bn pht biu kin v ring mt vn , hy c gngtm nhng danh t khng chm n t i ca ngi khc. C nhiu phngcch khc nhau din t t tng ca mnh mt cch du dng, hay l ,hoc na, c tnh cch "ngoi giao".

Khng nn ni gin khi ngi ta nu li mnh ra. C th bn ngh rng lcho ngi ta thy mnh ni nng, hay la li ry r ngi khc l che lp haylt qua nhng thiu st ca mnh. Tht ra, l mt thi gi di v sailm.

Khng nn pht l nhng b n thm kn ca bn b, mc du l ca ngim ta khng a. Nu bn ni ra nhng g ngi ta tm tnh vi mnh, bn s b khinh r v khng bao gi c nhn l ngi thnh tht.

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Hy v tKhng nn hp tp c kin nht nh v mt vn trong khi ang bc bi, hay khi b khiu khch, hoc na, khi h h vui mng, bi v trongnhng lc y tm trng ca bn b nhiu cm xc, v mt quyt nh t ntrong hon cnh tng t c th s lm cho bn hi tic mt ngy no. Hy


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cho tm bnh tnh tr li, v hy suy gm. Nh vy, quyt nh ca bn sc v t.

Hy trau di c khoan hng. c khoan hng trnh cho bn nhng xton vi v, gip bn thng cm nhng phin no ca ngi khc, gip bntrnh khi nhng li ch trch c tnh cch "vch l tm su", v gip bnnhn thc rng con ngi du cao siu n u, h cn l phm nhn l cn phi lm lc. S yu km m bn thy bn trong ngi lng ging rt c thcng c tm thy bn trong chnh bn.

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Khim tn

c khim tn l khun vng thc ngc ca bc thin tr o lng skhc bit gia ci g tht s l vy v ci g cn phi th no na mi cnh vy. Chnh c Pht bt u con ng hong Php ca Ngi bngcch dp b tt c bao nhiu kiu hnh ca mt hong t giu sang tr p. Ngi thnh t o qu Pht trong kip sng, nhng khng bao gi mtv t nhin. Cch lp lun v cc cu chuyn ng ngn ca Ngi khng baogi cu k. C nhng lc Ngi t ra khim tn hn tt c nhng ngikhim tn. Khng bao gi Ngi mt bn cht con ngi.

Khng nn phung ph th gi

Phung ph th gi bng cch u su hi tic nhng vic qua v d dui,khng to cho mnh bn cht thch hp vi a v lm ngi cao qu l cho nghip xu y a vo mt ni thch hp vi bn cht nhim. Hythnh tm ghi tc iu ny v hy hnh thin trong khi ang cn sng.Phung ph th gi, chng nhng bn lm hi cho chnh bn m cn phnghi n k khc, bi v th gi khng phi ca ring bn m cn l ca ngikhc.

Kin nhn v khoan hng

Hy kin nhn vi tt c. Sn hn dn dt chng ta vo mt khu rng rmkhng c li i. Trong khi chc gin v gy phin phc cho ngi khc ncng lm tn thng chnh ta, lm yu km c th v xo trn tinh thn. Mtli ni tht ra nh nc xung t, nh mi tn c bung ra t cnhcung, khng th cn thu hi li c na. Du ta c sm hi hay xin lingn ln, li ni bt cn gieo nh hng ca n.


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C nhiu con vt khng thy ban ngy. C nhng con khc khng thy trongm ti. Nhng ngi b lng sn hn li cun n cao th m cngnh ngy, khng cn thy g.

Khi ni sn, chng ta chin u chng ai, v chng ci g? Ta chin uchng ta v chnh ta l k th t hi nht ca ta. Tm l ngi bn tt nhtm cng l k th nguy him nht. Ta phi c gng dit tr nhng nhimtham i, sn hn, v si m trong tm bng gii, nh, tu.

Vi hnh thc au tim, vi chng bnh t thp, v vi xo trn ngoi da cnmang du vt ca tnh bt mn, sn hn, v ganh t?inh nin. Nhng cm xcc c tnh ph hoi nh vy l cho tim nhim c. N lm pht trin nhngchng bnh cn ng ngm v to mi trng thun li cho nhng con vitrng sanh bnh.

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Ly tt tr xu.

Nu bn mun thot ra khi mi phin ly m k th c th gy nn, trctin hy git cht mi sn hn trong lng v chnh n l k th chnh yu,nguy hi hn tt c.

ng khc, nu nghe mt ngi th m bn mt bnh tnh th iu ny c

ngha l bn ang tha mn nhng c vng ca h bng cch v tnh,chung vo ci by ca h.

Khng nn ngh rng ch c nhng ngi ca ngi, gip bn v hp tccht ch vi bn mi dy bn hc mt iu g. C rt nhiu bi hc m bnc th hc vi ngi th. Ch nn ni rng h hon ton sai lm, ch v tnhc h l k th ca bn. H cng c nhng c tnh.

Bn khng th dp b k th bng cch ly xu i xu, v lm vy ch tothm th. Phng php tt p v hu hiu nht khc phc mt ngi thl ri tm T ca ta n h. C l bn ngh rng iu ny khng th lmc, hay v ngha. Nhng phng php ny c tt c cc bc thin trtn dng. Khi bn hay bit c ngi phin gin, trc ht hy c gng tmra nguyn nhn ti sao. Nu nguyn nhn y l mt li lm ca bn, bn phinhn nhn v khng nn chn ch, hy chu li ngay. Nu l mt s hiu lmgia hai ng, bn hy tm n gii thch mt cch ci m v c gng lmsng t vn . Nu v ganh t?ay v mt cm xc nhim no khc, bn hy


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ri tm T n h v gieo nh hng bng nhng rung ng ca tm lc.Bn c th khng hiu ti sao, nhng xuyn qua kinh nghim ca nhiungi, phng php ny t ra hu hiu, c nhiu nng lc, sng sut, dthc hnh nht, v c Pht Gio nhit lit khuyn khch.

L d nhin, khi lm iu ny, bn phi t tin v kin nhn, bn s cho k ththy rng chnh h lm li. Ngoi ra bn cng cn hng c nhiu li chkhc nhau, bng nhiu cch khc nhau, bi v chnh bn khng nui dnglng bt thn thin trong tm.

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Tm T

Nu ch cn vn vn mt ngi m bn c th an i v v vi nhng li mdu, ch cn mt ngi m bn c th khch l v lm phn khi tinh thnvi s hin din ca bn, ch cn mt ngi m bn c th cu gip vinhng vt s hu trn tc ca bn, du him hoi v t i n u, ch cnmt ngi m lng t thin ca bn c th hng n, bn l mt phn tqu bu ca nhn loi, v nh vy, bn khng bao gi nn u phin v thtvng.

C nhng lc, ngi m bn qu mn thng yu bao nhiu hnh nh khngquan tm n bn, v bn cm nghe nng lng. Nhng khng c l do chnh

ng no chn nn. Nu nhng ngi khc khng bit tri n bn haykhng t quan tm n bn th c sao, trong khi bn hn bit rng tm ca bn vn cha y nhng t tng t i, i vi mi ngi, ti sao bn phi bun? Khng nn ty thuc nn k khc to hnh phc cho mnh. Nhngai cn trng ch ngi ta ban b cho mnh nhng tha mn trong i sng,nhng ngi cn ti t hn k n xin qu lay, ku go, van ln tngming cm bt cho.

Say SaSay sa lm mt l tr,Lm qun ht mi vic,Lm h hoi tm no,Lm gim thiu sc lc,Lm cho mu bng chy,Gy thng tch bn trong v bn ngoi, khng th cu cha.Say sa l mt quyn r ca c th,L mt c qu ca tm hn,


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L k trm ca ti tin,L s nguyn ra ca ngi n xin,L iu bt hnh ca v,L mi u phin ca con,L vin nh ca loi th,V ca s t st. Ngi ung ly ru chc th cho k khcCng cp tui th ca chnh mnh.Hu qu ca mt np sng say sa khng bao gi c th l ci g khc hns suy i, vt cht ln tinh thn.

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Sng iu ha

Lch s th gii chng t rng phn bit chng tc, chia r mu da, tnngng cung nhit v say sa tham vng quyn th v tin ca to nnnhng hon cnh bt hnh, nhng thng kh, nhng phin no trn th gianv cp i bao nhiu sanh mng bng nhng phng cch v cng tn bo. Cc iu y khng bao gi ng gp vo bt lun im no cho ha bnh v hnh phc. Ngi kht khao tin ca v quyn th, ngi b lngganh t u c, lun lun to phin no v thng c gng bin minh hnh ng bo tn ca mnh bng nhng li v ngha, xc phm n ngikhc. Chng ta ang sng trong th gian ha hp v phng din vt chtm chia r v mt tinh thn."Nu bn mun sng ha bnh v hnh phc, hy cho ngi khc sngha bnh v hnh phc. Bng cch y bn c th lm cho th gian ny l cig xng ng vi i sng".

Ngoi tr, v cho n khi no bn t sa mnh sng thch hp vi nhngnguyn tc cao thng, bn khng th trng ch ha bnh v hnh phc. Nuhnh ng ng theo nhng nguyn tc o c, bn c th to thin ngcho chnh bn, ngay ti y, trn th gian ny. Tri li, bn cng c th thyla a ngc ngay trn qu a cu, ti ni m bn ang sng. V khng bit phi sng th no ha hp vi nh lut thin nhin, ca v tr, chng talun lun than phin khi phi ng u vi nhng kh khn. Nu mingi c gng t sa mnh m khng than phin v ch trch ngi khc,chng ta c th th hng hnh phc thin ng tht s, hn l ci thinng m c ngi m c, tng chng nh u, xa xi trn tri. Khng


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cn phi to mt thin ng ni no khc ban thng c hnh, haymt a ngc hnh pht ti li.

c hnh v ti li t n c tc dng gy phn ng trong chnh th gianny, V trn phng din ny, c tin ca bn khng quan trng. y lng li cao thng nht theo bn c th gip to an lnh cho x hi vquc gia ca bn. Ngy nay, x hi loi ngi pht trin n mc y,nh s hiu bit v tnh n ha ca vi ngi ho tm, giu tnh thng vkhoan hng i vi hnh phc v tin b ca ngi khc. By gi bn c thnhn thc v sao chng ta phi thc hnh gii c. ng khc, bn phi hiurng khi gip cho ngi khc c gii c, bn cng t gip mnh, v trongkhi lm cho mnh c gii c, bn cng gip ngi khc.

"Chng ta sng, v lm vic, v c m,

Mi ngi trong khun kh nh b ca mnh.i khi chng ta khc,Lm lc chng ta ci,V nh th, ngy thng tri qua".

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Hnh phc gia nh.

Trong cuc hn nhn chn thnh, ngi n ng v ngi n b ngh n

tnh ng i nhiu hn l cho ring mnh. y l s phi hp quyn li rt phc tp, chng cht ln nhau, v mt s ng u vi cc hy sinh v li chchung. Do s c gng, c hai to cho mnh cc cm th an ton v tha mn.Phn ln cc phin no v lo u xy ra gia chng v v, cha m v con ci,gia thn bng quyn thuc u do hiu bit sai lm v thiu kin nhn.Chng khng nn i x vi v nh ngi lm trong nh. Mc du chnhmnh l ngi "to ni cm" cho gia nh, chng phi gip v to ha khtrong nh. ng khc, ngi lm v khng nn cu nhu hay than phinchng sut ngy, mi khi c iu s st, cng khng nn nghi k chng. Nuchng c mt vi khuyt im v phi c th sa i bng cch m i v dudng nhc nh. Mt ngi v phi bit khoan dung, chu ng nhiu vicm khng lm phin n chng.

Hn nhn l mt phc lnh, nhng nhiu ngi lm cho i sng gianh tr thnh mt ti kh v thiu hiu bit, thiu khoan hng, v thiu kinnhn. Cnh ngho khng phi l nguyn nhn chnh trong mt gia nh bthnh. V v chng phi bit chia x vi nhau nhng ngt bi v cay ng


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ca i sng hng ngy. Hiu bit nhau l b quyt ca mt gia nh hnh phc.

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Chp nhn ch trch.

Du ngt l bnh, cay ng l liu thuc. Nhng li ca ngi ta h nh ko,n nhiu qu sanh ra bnh. Li ch trch ging nh vin thuc ng, hay mithuc chch lm au, nhng cha ht bnh. Chng ta phi c can m tipnhn mi ch trch v khng nn s n.

"Trng thi xu xa m ta nhn thy ni ngi khcCh phn nh bn cht ca chnh ta".

Mi ngi nhn vo th gian loi ngi v s vt cng nh nhn vo mtgng, thy hnh nh ca chnh mnh trong .

Ch tm vo cng vic ca mnh

Nu bn c th chm lo cng vic ring ca mnh m khng xen vo vicngi khc mi khi khng cn thit th qu tht l tt p. Sau y l likhuyn ca c Pht:

"Khng nn nhn vo li lm ca ngi khc, vo nhng g ngi khc lm v nhng g ngi khc b qua. Hy nhn vo nhng g chnh ta lmv nhng g ta b qua?"

Li na, mt ni khc, Ngi dy:

"Ngi lun lun nhn vo li lm ca k khc v lun lun chao ng, lmtng trng nhim ca chnh mnh. Ngi ny cn lu mi dit ht nhim".

Vo mt trng hp khc, Ngi dy:"Thy li lm ca ngi khc th de, nhng rt kh thy li ca mnh. Ngi ta sng sy li lm ca ngi khc ging nh nh bng ly ht,nhng i vi li ca mnh th ngi ta nm np giu kn nh ngi nh by chim t ngy trang".


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"Bc cao thng khng tch mnh ra khi con ng chn chnh, mc chonhng g c th xy ra, v khng cn bm vo lc th ca trn gian. BcThin Tr lun lun trm lng v thn nhin, khi vui cng nh lc bun".

Khng ai c th sng trn th gian ny m khi b ch trch v khin trch.c Pht dy:

"Ngi ta khin trch k lng thinh. Ngi ta khin trch k ni nhiu cngnh ngi ni t. Nh vy, trn th gian ny khng ai trnh khi b khintrch".

V c Pht cng c dy:

" khng bao gi c trong qu kh, s khng bao gi c trong tng lai,trong hin ti cng khng c ai b khin trch hon ton hay hon ton ctn dng".

Khng phi tt c nhng ai ch trch bn u l k th ca bn. Bn phi bits dng c hi b ch trch y tm ra nhng thiu st m t bn khng ththy.

Khng nn b d mt cng trnh tt p ch v c s ch trch. Nu bn ccan m tip tc hon tt vin mn, bt k nhng li ch trch, bn qu thtl mt v nhn v bn c th thnh cng bt lun ni no.

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Khng nn lo u

B quyt ca mt cuc sng thnh cng v hnh phc l lm nhng g cn phi lm trong hin ti, khng lo u cho qu kh v tng lai. Chng takhng th i li tr vo qu kh un nn n theo mun m cng khngth i trc thi gian sp xp nhng g s xy ra trong tng lai. Ch cmt khong thi gian m chng ta c th kim sot c, l hin ti.

Nhiu ngi lo u ch v mi thc mc cho tng lai. Nu h bit t samnh thch ng vi hon cnh sinh sng hng ngy th khng c l do g lo u. Bt lun lu i no m h c th xy dng trn khng trung, btlun gic m no m h c th m p trong tm, h phi lun lun ghi nhrng h ang sng trong mt th gian lun lun thay i.


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Hy hnh thin

"Khng c ngi sao no m ta c th tn nhim,Khng c nh sng no dn dt ta,V ch?g ta bit rng chng ta phiHnh Thin, Cng Bnh, Chnh Trc".

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Nng ct ca thnh cng

Tht bi l tr ct ca thnh cng. Hc hi v nhng tht bi ca ta tc l in thnh cng. Khng bao gi tht bi tc khng bao gi thnh cng. Ngoi tr khi no chng ta c chu tht bi v c chu nh hng ca nhng phin toi dnh lin theo tht bi, chng ta s khng th thng thc trn vns c thng. Tht bi ch l mt ng r ca nhng din tin rt t quantrng, hay khng quan trng no i vi ta. Tht bi chng nhng gip tathnh cng m cn lm cho ta tr nn hin lnh, bit thng ngi, hiu bit, v giu kinh nghim hn.

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V p tht sMt ngi sanh ra xu x. Du gng mt ca ngi ny c th xu nh thno, nu h trau di tm T bi, chnh tm T y em li cho h sc quyn rl thng, t bn trong l hn ra ngoi v bao trm ton th con ngi vimt v p d mn c tnh cch thu ht ngi khc. l v p tht s,ch khng phi hnh dng hay mu sc ca gng mt.

Ngi n c sc p tuyt trn, nhng nu sc p y b tnh kiu cng hayngo mn ca chnh h bp mo th du xinh xn n u ngi ta cng

khng thch li gn. Mt ngi khc xu x, nhng lng trn y tm T vlng v bin, li n ting ni n tn, l , i x du hin vi tt c mngi, tc nhin ai cng thch li gn ngi ny.

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Con ngi b xo trn, khng phi do s vt, m do nhng thnh kin v svt m con ngi t to. Nh ci cht chng hn, t n khng phi l ci ggh gm. Kinh hong ch trong tm. Ni nhiu n chn l v s au khc v nh gy bnh trong tm ngi khng th i ph vi nhng din tinca i sng, nhng n gip ta thc thng ci "bong bng o tng" cahnh phc.

V ham sng v c bm vo kip sng trn th gian nn ngi ta s cht,mt ci s n yu, khng t nhin. Chnh ci s ny lm cho ngi ta ctnh nht gan, khng bao gi dm mo him, du mo him lm iu ttiu lnh. Con ngi sng trong kinh hong, lun lun lo s bnh hon, lo stai nn hay mt din bin bt hnh no khc bt ng dp tt cuc sng nh b khng ng k ny. S nhn thc rng cht l iu khng th trnh v ss hi v cn c mt vic chc chn phi n, thc y con ngi ham sng

v c bm vo kip sng trn th gian n c vng cung nhit rng c mci g gi l "linh hn", mi mi s c sng trn thin ng. Khng ai cth sng hnh phc trong cn bo tp ca kinh hong v cung vng. Qutht kh m khng bit g n bn nng t bo tn ca con ngi.

Tuy nhin, c mt phng php chc chn khc phc n. l t qunci bn ng ca mnh dn thn vo ng phc v v tha, l thay vhng tnh thng vo trong, ta quay n tr ra bn ngoi. Hy dnh th gi v nng lc vo vic gip k khc, bn s qun i nhng luyn i hn yuv ch k, nhng cung vng v nhng kiu hnh ngo mn ca chnh bn.

Mi ngi u mun c cht yn lnh sau khi thnh tu vin mn smng ca mnh trong i sng. Nhng, c bao nhiu ngi chun b snsng bnh tnh i ph vi din bin y? Bao nhiu ngi chu b cng hon tt vin mn trch v ca mnh i vi gia nh, i vi thn bngquyn thuc, quc gia, v tn gio mnh? Mt ngi lm chung m chalm trn nhng bn phn trn chc chn s kh m c c mt ci cht anlnh.

Lm ngi s xc cht. Nhng thn sng cn nguy him gp my ln thyma. Bao nhiu ngi tht bi v kinh hong v nhng thn sng, hn lnhng thi hi v tri v gic.

Nu bn t gi ci i m cha lm trn phn s, kip ti sanh tr li trnth gian ny s khng li ch g cho chnh bn m cng chng li ch g choth gian. Vy, hy thc hnh y nhim v ca bn v can m, bnh tnh


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i ph vi ci cht mt cch an lnh. Mt ngy ti sng kia bn s c tht n trng thi v sanh bt dit v hnh phc trng cu.

Nguyn tc: "How to overcome our difficulties" Ha thng Sri Dhammananda

Phm Kim Khnh dch Vit, Si gn, 1972

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