Shikshapatri shlok 144 Shikshapatri shlok 144 Dhiraj Akhyan Dhiraj Akhyan Tulsi Vivah (Lagna Vidhi) Tulsi Vivah (Lagna Vidhi)

Shikshapatri shlok 144

Dhiraj Akhyan

Tulsi Vivah (Lagna Vidhi)

Saraswati group presentation

SHIKSHAPATRI SHLOKA 144• Ane potanu athva bijanu je vivah sambhandhi

karya tene vishe apva yogya je dhan tenu sakshie sahit lakhat karya vina kevad bolij na karvi.

SHIKSHAPATRI SHLOKA - EXPLANATION

• Shatanand swami a shlokno bhav samjavta kahe che ke – Vyavhar vako che.Jya vyavhar ave che, tya vikshepo avshya ave che.Ane e vikshepo kutumbna sabandhoma viprit asar karnara bane che.

• Mate potana athva bijana vivah sabandhi karyama je kai pan kanyane arpan karva yogya vastu hoy tenu sakshi e sahit lakhan karinej vyavhar karvo.


• Lagna sambandhi kam ma dikra-dikri parnava na hoy ane e vakhte bey kutumb na vaddilo bhega bese ane vaato kare, “levadeva nu shu karshu?” ketla manso jamadva, kanyadan ni paheramnni ma shu apvu, ketla dagina apva, e naki karine e pan lakahan karilevu. Nai to swami kahe chhe lagna na samay mara mari thai padde. Tame atlu kayu hatu ne atlu apyu.


• Tame am karyu, amare kabul nathi. Vivah ni jagay barmu thay. Avi paristhiti ubhi na thay etle ema hari bhakto e savchet rahevu.

• Vyavhar na kaam ma koi divse vishvas chalto nathi. Ema to sachot khatri joiye. Ema boli ne bandhai na javu. Ha, ha, etla apne kabul em nahi.

• Lakhan karo tame kaho chho e pramane mare manya chhe koi divse mottha ni boli ma phasavu nai

JAY DEV BHAGAT

JAYDEV BHAGAT

• Patni nu nam Padmavatiben• Bhiksha magine gaar chalavta• Ek niyam hatu ke bhukhya ne jamarine

jamvanu• Kaar avyo ane khavanu maltu nai

JAYDEV BHAGAT

• Shishya pase gaya ane shishya gadaa bharine ne dhan apyu

• Pacha farta, 4 chor malya• Hath ne pag kapi nakhya• Raja ne Jay Dev Bhagat malya• Pachi pheri kar avyo• Jay Dev Bhagat dhiraj rakhi• Chor dharti ma samai gaya

Conclusion

• Dhiraj nu phar mithu hoy• Koi gaar de to same gar na devi• Kai par bhul thai jay to maaf karvu

DHIRAJ AKHYAN-AMBRISH RAJA

• Ambrish Raja was an ‘atmanivedi bhakta’ – he never even drunk a sip of water without offering to God, his name was also mentioned in shikshapatri for this quality. He also believed that there are no enemies and they were never born, he believed that all are his friends.

• He was a king but a great true devotee of God, he had lots of servants for himself but he actually served God all by himself did not seek help from the servants. For example he never sent the servants to get for him water, flowers and Tulsi to offer God, he went to get by himself.

Ambrish Raja cont….

• God was very pleased and delighted with the service offererd by Ambrish raja. He kept a sudarshan chakra aside to protect Ambrish raja.

• There was one year that Ambrish raja had performed a trivasar vrat – 12 months sampurna paki ekadashi.


• In this vrat Ambrish Raja ate only once on dasham, dis upwas on ekadashi and ate once on dwadashi.

• He had completed all the 23 ekadashi vrat of the year and it was the last day - dwadashi, he was waiting for someone to come in so that he can offer the atithi first before he eats on that day.


• Durwasha muni wanted to test his dhiraj and his bhakti, durwasha muni came with his fellow munis. He arrived at the doorstep and asked for alms ‘bhikhshamdehi’

• Ambrish raja was glad to see them but he asked them to go to the river for bath by that time he can prepare food for all of them as they were many and he did not have enough cooked food.


• Durwasha muni wanted to test him and therefore stayed for longer time at the river, he was waiting for the 12th day to finish and the thirteenth day to start so that Ambrish raja does not get the fruit for his vrat.

• It was almost getting 13th day so Ambrish raja asked therishi muni what he should do about this. Rishis suggested him to have tulsi offered to Lord’s feet and drink the charnamrut, this will be considered as the vrat completed – ‘barmu karyu kevase ane nai pan karyu kevase’


• Justafter he completed his barmu, Durwasha muni came in and shouted angrily at Ambrish Raja “Why did you eat before us and yet you invited us, I will give you a curse and kill you”.

• He gave rise to ‘prutrya’ as the prutryas goes ahead to kill ambrish raja the sudarshan chakra burns off the prutyas and chased Durwasha muni.


• Durwasha muni runs to devtas, Brahma and Shiva for help but all are helpless and sends him to Lord Vishnu.

• He goes to Lord Vishnu


• Lord Vishnu: what happened to you, what trouble do you have?

• Durwasha muni: Help me! Help me! Your sudarshan chakra is chasing me

• Lord Vishnu: why?• Durwasha muni: I have hurt your devotee by

mistake• Lord Vishnu: Do not lie tell me truth was is by

mistake or you did it purposely?

Ambrish Raja cont….• Durwasha muni: Yes, I did it purposely, I wanted to test his

patience as well as his devotion to you. • Lord Vishnu: The sudarshan is mine but I have set it aside for my

devotees, now I cannot do anything about it nor can I forgive you, you have to go to my devotees himself to ask for forgiveness as you have hurt my devotees not me, my devotees forgive you on my behalf if tou have hurt me but I cannot forgive you on behalf of my bhakta. I love my devotees more than my life, ‘rat divas ena (vaishnav) gunn gau chhu’ I can do anything for them, I can leave tap, tirth and Vainkutth and go wherever they need me. You are going through this difficulty because you have hurt a vaishnav, - Ambrish raja. A servant of my saint is more important to me.


• Durwasha muni then goes to Ambrish raja and asks for forgiveness, Ambrish raja felt pity for him and he forgave Durwasha muni and requested the chakra to calm down. Ambrish Raja then gave offered alms-food to Durwasha muni with all the love and devotion he had when he invited him at first.

Some qualities of devotees

• Patience-dheeraj• ‘darya-dil’• friends and enemies are all equal• Forgive every time no matter how many times

the person makes the same mistake.• Do not hurt or disturb others for your own

benefit• Think positive/good about others never have

thoughts that would hurt others.

Tulsi Vivah

Lagan Vidhi

Rituals before Marriage

Ganesh Sthapan:• At the beginning of all auspicious and religious

occasions, Lord Ganesh is worshipped to provide prosperity and protect from any obstacles which may arise during the ceremony and in married life.

Manek Sthumbh• This follows the ceremony of Grah Shanti. The priest will tie Meendhal to

the right hand of the betrothed, symbolising an emblem of purity. Manek Sthumbh- the pillar of gem is also bestowed at the ceremony, expressing the sign of good luck and wealth.

Wedding RitualsVar Agaman• The wedding starts off with the arrival of the groom known as the “Jaan”.

“Ponkvu” is where the mother-in-law welcomes the groom at the doorway and performs the Aarti.

• He is then escorted to the mandap by the bride’s family.

• Traditionally saree has been an ideal dress for a bride, draped in a Gujrati style. There are 2 basic types of saree- the panetar, a white saree with red bandhani border and the chundri, traditional red bandhani saree. The saree should be draped modestly over her hair. Red is considered as the most auspicious colour for the bride.

Kanya Agaman• The bride, who will be wearing her wedding dress and best make-up, will

be escorted to the mandap by her Mama, taking up her seat opposite the groom.

Antarpat

• In the mandap, the bride, the groom, the parents of the bride and the priest sit, while the rest of the family members sit around the mandap.

Jaimala• The bride and the groom then garland each other, expressing their respect

for each other, promising to share everything in life.

Madhuparka• Madhuparka takes place after the ritual Jaimala ceremony. The ritual

involves washing of the groom's feet with kumkum and flowers while sitting under the Mandap. He is then offered milk and honey.

Varmala• After this the "Varmala" ceremony takes place in which a sacred rope is

tied around the couple's necks to protect them from evil influences.

Hathialo/Hasta Milap (Joining of the Hands)• It is the ceremony in which the corner of the brides sari is tied to a scarf

which is worn by the groom. The right hands of the couple are tied with a thread that has been blessed with religious incantations. The tying of the hands signifies an eternal bond that will join them forever. The couple then pray to the Gods to give them strength and bless their union.

Kanyadan• This follows the ceremony of Kanyadan performed by the priest with the

bride's parents, symbolising offering of the Kanya (bride) to the Ver (groom).

Havan• A havan or sacred fire is lit and the priest recite mantras and speaks of the

real essence or spirit of marriage. • Fire is considered the witness of the ritual.

• The bride and the groom offer grains and ghee to the fire in order to obtain the blessings of higher beings.

• Bride cups her hands and places them in groom's cupped hands. Bride's brother puts rice in bride's hands. Together the bride and groom pour the mixture into the fire.

Pheras• The bride and the groom walk around the fire 4 times called “pheras” and

after every turn the bride places her right foot on a piece of stone which symbolises that they will overcome any obstacles in their life together.

• As a symbolic gesture, the couple takes 7 steps together, each representing health, wealth, strength, children, happiness, life-long friendship and god.

• Pheras are ALWAYS taken around the sacred fire.• The groom leads the first 3 rounds and the bride leads the fourth.• Theses pheras signify the four main aims of life: Dharma Arth Kama Moksha

Dharma (religion)• This signifies the spirit of righteousness and one’s duty to follow the religion

devoutly.

Arth (wealth)• This signifies the path one and right means that one should take for earning

one's wealth and livelihood, striving for material gain and success, and endeavouring to help the poor and unprivileged whenever possible.

Kama (love and family)• According to Hindu mythology, Kama is the God of Love. This 'phera‘ thus

symbolizes the love and dedication that a married couple should have towards each other. They should support and stand for each other, 'for better or worse', for the rest of their lives.

Moksha (salvation)• The last phera signifies liberation of suffering. Once a person gets married and

encounters the bliss of marital fulfillment, he will find liberation from the sufferings and pains of unmarried life.

Sindoor and Mangalsutra

• Then the groom fills the bride’s centre parting of the hair with sindoor, which is one of the sacred symbol of marriage symbolising 4 Hindu gods who are immortal couples.

• Then the ritual of tying mangalsutra is performed. This is where the groom ties the mangalsutra around the neck of the bride, while the priest recites mantras. This black beaded sacred thread signifies the union of the bride and the groom.

Kansar• Then it is followed by Kansar which signifies “sweetness in married life”.

They offer each other the kansar four times symbolising that the groom will feed and provide for her throughout life and the bride promises to always love and care for him.

Rituals after Marriage

Saubhagyavati Bhava• ‘Saubhagyavati Bhava’ is where the elderly married women of the girl's

family whisper "Aashirwaad" (blessings) into the right ear of the bride.

Vidaigiri• Finally ‘Vidaigiri’ is were the bride bid farewell to her parents, relatives

and friends and leaves for the groom’s house. Thus, this marks the beginning of a new life for the new couple.

• A coconut is broken and it’s water is sprinkled on the couple’s car as a gesture of good luck.

• Tulsi Vivah is one of the main festivals of Hindu calendar. This festival is having a great significance in Vaishnav Sampraday. Tulsi Vivah starts on the first ekadashi after Diwali. This festival falls on the 11th day of the bright half of Kartik, which is the first ekadashi in the New Year.

• Tulsi is an incarnation of Maha Lakshmi who was born as Vrinda. • Tulsi was the faithful wife of Demon Jalandhar. • Being born in water, Jalandhar claims sovereignty over the ocean and

demands the 14 treasures churned out of the ocean in Vishnu's second incarnation.

• Demon Jalandhar drew strength from her purity and chastity. • He declares war and becomes a cause of danger to the gods. More so

because of a boon that he would be free from death till his wife Vrinda was chaste. So firm was her chastity that even Lord Shiva could not defeat Jalandhar in battle and all the demigods went to Lord Vishnu for help.

• However, on the request of demigods, Vishnu took the form of Jalandhar and stayed with Tulsi.

• When Tulsi Devi greeted Him, thinking Him to be her husband, her chastity was momentarily broken.

• After Vrinda had lost her holiness and purity, Jalandhar lost the source of his power, and was killed in battle. Taking advantage of this the demigods killed Jalandhar.

• Vrinda in her wrath cruses and turns Lord Vishnu into a Black stone (Shaligram) for his deceit. Vishnu too retaliates but in admiration of her impeachable chastity and holiness, he transfers her into the sacred Tulsi plant and promises to marry her annually on this day of Kartik.

• To this day, pieces of the Shaligram stone can be found in the Gandaki River.

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