SCAREYOUR SOULMeet-Up Guide

FOR SYS AMBASSADORS #SCAREYOURSOUL

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Our first SYS Challenge back in November was also the weekend of thedeadly attacks in Paris. Our first communications with Ambassadors forthis 2016 SYS were sent the weekend of the Orlando attack.

This world is steeping in an increasingly stronger brew of fear. Fromsecond-guessing our everyday life choices to full-on Xenophobia. ButSYS is about courage. SYS is about strength. The strength ofconnecting the world.

And, in facing our fears, in sharing our shadows and finding the suntogether, we do something more. We listen to each other. Weunderstand one another. We try to imagine how something so small toone of us, can cause someone else's world to grind to a halt.

We encourage bared souls, stripped naked, open to fully-freedcompassion. How best to truly see one another? Flawed and heroic allat once.

That is the movement of SYS.

The SYS team, July 2016

All materials copyright Scare Your Soul LLC 2016

First off, thank you for playing a key role in helping others (and yourself) expresscourage and overcome fear.

Congrats and bravo!

As an Ambassador for Scare Your Soul, one of your key roles is to organize andlead a Meet-Up. Your Meet-Up should be a combination of both some structure(which we will suggest) and total flexibility on your part. We encourage you toorganize and lead it in a way that matches your personal style and the energy ofthe group.

1. Welcome and introductions (5 min)2. Ice-breaker (5 min)3. Mini Courage Challenge (5-10 min)4. SPIRE/brainstorming instructions (10 min)5. Brainstorm 1st question (10 min)6. Brainstorm 2nd question (10 min)7. Plot on matrix and choose 3 challenges (5 min)8. Group-share, log in SYS Website, and close (5-10 min)

Your Meet-Up location could be anywhere - it’s your choice completely: your living room, a yoga studio, coffee shop, ina park. And, your Meet-Up could be small or large. 3 people or 30. Or 300. As long as you have enough copies of thematerials (see below), it will work.

You may want to decide your limit for how many you’re inviting or know about how many to expect by asking for RSVPsthrough email, a Facebook event, or tickets on a free EventBrite page.

We expect the Meet-Ups to last about an hour, not including any extras you want to throw in.

One pen for each participantHard copies of the SYS Cards & decision matrix (3 pages for each)A way to track attendance (printed or digital sign-in sheet)Your passion and enthusiasm

The Meet-Up Agenda What to bring

Location

Welcome and intros

Time: 5 minutes

Welcome: Begin by welcoming your participants, and thanking them for putting themselves OUT THERE and Scaring Their Soulstogether.

State Goals: The goal for the Meet-Up is simple:

1. To connect with one another2. To individually brainstorm our 3 challenges3. To commit to tackling fears and being courageous together

Provide some background on SYS: "Scare Your Soul is a global courage movement originating in Cleveland, Ohio. The firstChallenge kicked off in 2015 with hundreds of participants around the world embarking on a journey to discover their bestselves. The process is simple: Three days are set as the ‘official’ window for people to participate, they commit online to 1-3actions which will ‘scare their soul’ in a way that leads to positive transformation and personal growth. On those days, theyperform the actions and share on social media by way of video, photo, or words- always using the hashtag #scareyoursoul. Theyare able to explore the multitude of ways people interpret this challenge around the world, inspiring and being inspired byothers. Participants move forward, hopefully with an increased sense of pride in their ability to conquer fears."

Share Your Story: You (the meetup host) can also choose right away to share a brief explanation of your story- why youbelieve in SYS, your experience, etc.

Breaking the ice

Time: 5-10 minutes

We suggest that you hold a connection activity to break down walls and build up trust immediately.There will be looming discomfort just by the nature of this Meet-Up- let’s ease a little of that!

Examples may include:

Courage Swap: Ask people to pair off, and to describe to the other person “one time in your lifewhen you exhibited courage. It could have been when you were 9, or just last week. Take 1 minuteeach and then swap.”

Staring: Ask people to pair off, and stare into someone else’s eye for 30 seconds straight. If theylaugh, they must start over.

Hand Exercise: Ask the entire group to clasp their hands together, or with the people next to them.Now, switch your fingers so you’re holding hands the other way. Allow yourself to feel the slightdiscomfort and ‘weirdness’ of doing something differently that you’re used to. Now turn to the peoplenext to you and say thanks for getting uncomfortable with me.

Mini courage challenge

To build some pride and self-efficacy in your attendees, we encourage you to come up with one unifying couragechallenge for the entire group. This is where your personal strengths or interests can shine, as well as the uniqueness ofyour group. Remember that SYS challenges should always be focused on positive growth, and this specific groupchallenge should not be the scariest thing someone’s ever done, nor take longer than 10 minutes.

Some ideas, but in no way are you limited to:

A quick mindfulness meditation

Turning off cell phones during the meet-up

Trying an exotic fruit or vegetable

Yelling out a name you’ve been called and don’t want to be associated with

Admitting something you know nothing about but pretend to around others

Tell an embarrassing story

And the list goes on....

Brainstorming guidelines

Overview: now we shift from working as a group, to focusing on brainstorming our individual challenges. Before we dive in, there are 6brainstorming guidelines to keep in mind:

Read the guidelines for brainstorming to your group:

1. This is a time to refrain from judgment- feel the resistance, the urge to laugh, be ashamed, make excuses…but DON’T give in! Everyone’s comfortzones are different, are your stretches are uniquely yours.

2. This is a time to be as honest with yourself and others as possible. Ideas you feel like you would never tackle are welcome, as are items that feelmostly okay but are something you’d like to do.

3. Scare Your Soul is a movement aimed at helping you build courage, a very strong element in the field of positive psychology. We want you toexplore the best version of yourself, even if it’s just for a few minutes of one day, and feel the pride which may result! With that said…seek outopportunities which will take you in the direction of growth and improvement.

4. There is no right or wrong. Going to a CrossFit class may be a challenge to someone’s emotional wellbeing, where as maybe it’s the learningsomething new that makes it an intellectual challenge for someone else. Your experience is defined by you.

5. Success and failure is also defined by you. If you realize that the brainstorm is as far as you can get right now, but aren’t ready to tackle thechallenge- good for you for taking time to reflect! If you complete this round of challenges and don’t feel particularly changed, acting courageouslyto any degree should be celebrated. Maybe you’ve strengthened a courage muscle for a tougher challenge next time.

6. Our group challenge days are meant to be a kickstart. Your challenges can take place only for a short time each day, or can be the beginning of aweek-long, month-long, life-long commitment to improvement. (ex. Some participants have gone without makeup for a whole month, cut out sugar fora week, begun the journey of sobriety…)

Brainstorming the first question

Time: 10 minutes

Now's the time! Now the group is primed, and it is the time to engage in the deep and exciting work of digging deep and selecting thethree challenges they will do over July 15, 16, and 17.

Explain SPIRE: The field of positive psychology focuses on the study of what makes people happier, have greater well being, and flourish intheir lives. In order to better categorize the key drivers of happiness, leading positive psychologists generated a model called SPIRE. SPIRErepresents the 5 dimensions in which we all either flourish or “get stuck.” SPIRE is an acronym, for the 5 dimensions: Spiritual, Physical,Intellectual, Relational, and Emotional.

Read each category and what it means (below)

Pass Out Brainstorm Sheets and read the following: We will be filling out a worksheet with the 5 categories. There are two questionsthat we will be taking time to answer. There are no rules here: just brainstorm your response to the question however you would like. Inbullet form. In one long sentence. It doesn't matter. Just write.

Ask participants to write their answers to the first question on the worksheet. You should give 10 minutes total for this first question.

Time: 10 minutes

Time for the Second Question: Now the group has answered the first question, itstime to take another 10 minutes to answer the second question.

Again, they should answer within the SPIRE categories; they will be brainstorming 2-3actions per Category (10-15 total)

Brainstorming the second question

Plot actions on the matrix

Time: 5 minutes

Plotting and choosing challenges: Once participants have gone through the brainstorm process, they get to quickly turn those ideas intocommitments. Using the matrix, they will take each of the actions they wrote and place them/write them where they fit in the box.Again, there is no right or wrong- just the way they feel about things today!

Then, the choose 3 challenges out of the 10-15 on the matrix: Once all actions are mapped, they will select 1-3 actions they want to commit toduring the July 2016 Scare Your Soul challenge! These actions should fit the following criteria:

1. Can be initiated or completed within 24 hours on July 15, 16, or 17.2. There is no intentional harm being done to yourself or others3. It is something designed to have an IMPACT on your life in a positive way

Star, circle, or underline the shit out of those 3 bad boys!

Again give prompts for 2 and 1 min left. This is a pretty quick decision making process- they can do it!

Sharing challenges

Time: 5 minutes

Verbally share the challenges they’re choosing: This is an opportunity for your participants to verbally commit. This builds accountability andsupport in the community of your Meet-Up. Depending on the number of attendees and your timing, you can make this a large group share (onechallenge or all), or small group/partners. The larger the group- the better it will be to have breakout groups or people may lose attention.

Now, everyone get their phones and log in those challenges: This is important. Direct people to get out their phones, and go towww.scareyousoul.com/challenges They should enter their name and the 3 challenges that they just chose. The Meet-Up Code is your lastname!

Explain how to share their challenge successes on July 15-17: When participants conduct a challenge, they should take a minute to take a photo (oreven better a video) and post it to the Scare Your Soul Facebook page - www.facebook.com/scareyoursoul - and/or Instagram -www.instagram.com/scareyoursoul Important, please make sure they tag any post on FB or IG with:

#ScareYourSoul

Why it’s important to share: We ask people to share their challenges (and successes) with others online for two important reasons, one external andone internal.

First, sharing allows others to be inspired by what we have taken on, and that spurs them to be more courageous themselves. It is the multipliereffect: the more people share, the more inspiration, and the more people will share. And so on.

But equally important, sharing requires vulnerability. And as researchers and authors like Brene Brown say, “Vulnerability is the best measure ofcourage. The willingness to show up, and let ourselves be fully seen and known. It doesn’t get braver than that.”

FAQ's

Q: Why should I participate?A: Everyone’s answer to that is going to be different honestly. But what we can tell you is that this is a movement designed to flex your

courage muscle. This is literally something that can improve with work, and when you practice courage you are more able to seeyourself in the best light. If you want to feel pride in accomplishing something, and supported along the way...this challenge is for you.

Q: What’s the mission of Scare Your Soul?A: We are a courage movement, existing as a catalyst for people everywhere to connect and find community in breaking barriers and

pushing past comfort zones to grow into the best versions of themselves.

Q: How do I sign up?A: If you’re brand new, click on ‘Join the challenge’ and we will send you some welcome info! If you’ve attended a meetup or know the

challenges you want to tackle already, click on ‘Your 3 Challenges’ and fire away!

Q: How do I share my challenges on social media?A: Get creative! Any way you can share via photo, video, or words is welcome. Always use #scareyoursoul so we can support your

efforts! If you’re a part of a meet-up, use that hashtag as well to check in with your community members and hold each otheraccountable. On facebook you can make it private to certain people if you’re not willing to share in public...but remember, courage is

contagious

Q: What if I can’t complete the challenges I want to do at this time?A: We recommend you choose experiences that can be done during our Challenge dates so you can feel the support of a communityengaging in courage together. But...this movement is meant to be a catalyst for continuous courageous living! You can wait until our

next group challenge or take it on whenever you’re ready.

Q: What if my challenge can’t be done in a day?A: We recognize that growth happens at all different speeds. Kick-start your challenge and keep checking in as you go so we can help

you stay motivated! Awesome.

Q: Why is it called ‘Scare Your Soul’? My (friend, aunt, brother, cat…) doesn’t want to join because the name freaks them out.A: We know that some people love the name...and others don’t. This is a movement that doesn’t dance around the corners of fear.

Courage is an action that occurs not in place of fear, but despite it, because the reward could be greater than the risk. If it’s not theirthing...they should try it once anyways :) But really, maybe they’ll try when they’re ready.

"Life is so much more than happiness. It seems as if so many people center their lives aroundseeking and striving for happiness, but what kind of life is that to lead? We have this one life.

This is our one chance to experience the full spectrum of emotions that we are given ashuman beings. I want to feel joy as well as pain. I want to shake with excitement, as well as

with sadness.

Every down we have forces us up. So go ahead. Fall in love. Make mistakes. Swear whenyou want to fucking swear. Because once you finally fall in love with the right person, make

the right choices, choose kindness over profanity, and fall asleep with a smile on your face, youknow you have made it. You have truly lived."

- This quote comes from a SYS participant, sharing her words on Day 1 of the November 2015challenge. Scare Your Soul serves as a movement which empowers people to experience life

to the fullest, which must require courage.

#scareyoursoul