Shabbat Prayer Times äçðî Minha 7:00 p.m.

úåøð ú÷ìãä Candle Lighting 7:13 p.m.

(ïé÷éúå) à"ãéçä ïéðî úéøçù Shaharit Ha’Hida Vatikin 5:55 a.m.

úéøçù Shaharit (Main Synagogue/Barechu:9:35) 8:30 a.m

Rabbi’s Shiur - Mesilat Yesharim 5:30 p.m.

íéìäú Tehilim 6:15 p.m. äçðî Minha 6:45 p.m.

áåè òåáù Shabbat Ends 8:14 p.m.

Ereb Shabbat, Friday September 20th, 2019

Minha 6:45 p.m. (Candle Lighting 7:01 p.m.)

Weekday Services at Medrash Torah Vehayim

úéøçù Shaharit Sunday ïé÷éúå Vatikin 6:15 a.m.

íéîéã÷î Makdimim 8:00 a.m. íéòåá÷ Kebuim 9:00 a.m.

úéøçù Shaharit Weekdays ïé÷éúå Vatikin 6:15 a.m.

íéîéã÷î Makdimim 6:45 a.m. íéòåá÷ Kebuim 8:15 a.m. äçðî Minha 7:10 p.m.

úéáøò Arbit 7:40 p.m.

Shabat Zemanim– Netz– õð– 6:56 am, Keriat Shema- òîù úàéø÷- 9:28 am, Shekia- äòé÷ù– 7:30 pm

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Welcome to our Synagogue ברוכים הבאים

Shabbat Shalom שבת שלום

President Meyer Keslassy Vice President Jean-Claude Abtan

Rabbi Emeritus Haham Amram Assayag

Rabbi Rabbi David Kadoch

Shaliach Tzibur

Marc Kadoch Parnas

Avi Azuelos

Parashat Ki Tetze פרשת כי תצא

Shabbat September 14th, 2019, 14 / יד' אלול תשע"ט Elul 5779

Perasha Page 1046, Haftara 1201 in Artscroll

Kiddush Kiddush this Shabbat is provided by Abir Yaakob Congregation. Everyone is invited to join us after

services.

Everyone is welcome

Seuda Shelishit Mr. & Mrs. Armand and Esther Bensimon in memory of her mother, Clara Edery ì"æ Mr. & Mrs. Jonathan & Betty Lalou in memory of his grandfather, Juda Lalou ì"æ Mr. Simon Sabbah in memory of his brother, Armand Sabbah ì"æ Mr. Albert Afriat in memory of his father, Joseph Afriat ì"æ

Everyone is welcome.

Nahalot Adell Totah ì"æ,15 Elul / Sunday September 15

Armand Sabbah ì"æ, Clara Edery ì"æ 16 Elul / Monday September 16

Joseph Afriat ì"æ, Juda Lalou ì"æ, 19 Elul / Thursday September 19

Nahalot for the following week

Alegria Benzaquen ì"æ 21 Elul / Saturday September 21

Joseph Azulay ì"æ, Jacob Benchimol ì"æ, Leon Cohen ì"æ 24 Elul / Tuesday September 24

To increase participation during Tefila, this bulletin should not be read during the conduction of prayer services. This bulletin must be discarded in a proper Geniza. 7026 Bathurst Street Thornhill, Ont. L4J 8K3

Tel: (905) 669 7654 Fax: (905) 669 5138

Synagogue News High Holidays Tickets

High Holiday Tickets are now available for pickup. Accounts must be

fully paid to receive tickets and, for security reasons, no one will be

admitted for Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur services without num-

bered tickets checked at the door.

Selihot

Selihot will begin 45 minutes before each respective minyan.

Hatanim

If you are interested in being a Hatan for Simhat Torah please contact

our Parnas Avi Azuelos. Available Hatanim are:

- Hatan Mesayem (Vezot Haberacha)

- Hatan Mathil (Bereshit)

- Hatan UlAsher Amar (RESERVED)

- Hatan Maftir

Security Update

The SKC will be using the services of VALGAURD Security on a trial ba-

sis, as of this Shabbat. Valgaurd is well known in the Jewish community

for their services and we look forward working with them.

Regular Minha Schedule

Please note that the times of Minha and Arbit now reflect the times

based on sunset. Minha this week will be at 7:10 p.m.

Seuda Shelishit

Come check out our new menu of delicious food and salads during

Seuda Shelishit. For any recommendations

please email social@kehilacentre.com or call 905-669-7456

Ext. 200.

Mikve Update

Baruch HaShem, after some good rain this week, the mikve is now filled

with water and will be open for service starting this Sunday night, b”h. A

last reminder that the Mikve has been designated for Ladies use only.

Under no circumstances may men use the Mikve. Thank you for your

understanding.

Special Lecture by Rabbi Yoel Gold

Join us this Sunday September 15th for a lecture by Rabbi Yoel Gold,

world renowned inspirational lecturer. Registration begins at 7:30 p.m.

with the lecture beginning at 8 p.m. $18 per

person or $20 at the door. Men and Woman are welcome.

For more information please see back flyer.

Hazak U’Baruch

Hazak U’Baruch to everyone who made the effort to attend the Selihot

services this week. Attendance was superb in all THREE minyanim.

Check it out

Please take some time to read the Members Speak Devar Torah column

this week written by Amram Benquesus on the next page of the bulletin.

If you would like to write some words of Torah or inspiration for our

bulletin, please don’t hesitate to contact Rabbi Kadoch.

Mishmara

The mishmara for Mrs. Suzy Esseis z”l (Souad bat Hasiba), wife of

Jacques Esseis, will take place this Thursday, September 19th beginning

with Minha at 7:00 in the upstairs Medrash. Cemetery services will take

place Friday morning at 8am at Bathurst Lawn Cemetery.

May her Neshama rest eternally in Gan Eden and may we only hear

Besorot Tovot. Amen.

Siyum HaShas

The 13th Siyum HaShas celebration will take place on January 1st, 2020

in Metlife Statdium, New Jersey. Those interested in joining the celebra-

tion to sit together with members from the Sephardic community of

Toronto should contact Rabbi Kadoch no later than Monday September

16th. More information and ticket reservation can be found at

www.thesiyum.org

If you have a Mazal Tob that you would like to share with the congregation or if you have a change of address or email please contact the office at

(905) 669-7654.

Please be advised that the cutoff time for insertion in the bulletin is Wednesday at 4:00 p.m.

This bulletin is printed courtesy of Print Three Concord (905) 738-5682.

New and exciting Torah classes @ SKC

Daily - Halacha - between Minha and Arbit.

Sundays 9:00 a.m - Navi with Rabbi Kadoch, Lower Level Synagogue, men, Coffee will be served.

Tuesdays Night Live 8:00 p.m with Tomer Malca in the Medrash

Wednesdays 8:00 p.m - Ladies shiur with Rabbi Kadoch, Location Lower Level Classroom

Thursdays 9:00 p.m - Ohr HaHayim on the weekly Parasha with Rabbi Kadoch, Medrash, men

Shabbat - Mesilat Yesharim Mussar with Rabbi Kadoch - 45 minutes before Tehilim, men and women.

New Shiur - Young Adult Males

Rabbi Kadoch will be offering a new Torah class Tuesday nights beginning this week for Young Adults. The topic of study will be

the "Rambam" - a perfect blend of law, ethics and history. Tuesdays, 8 PM, Lower Level Synagogue.

Ladies Shiur

The ever popular ladies shiur with Rabbi Kadoch resumes this Wednesday at 8pm in the Lower Level classroom located near the

Mikve Kelim. Weekly topics will include Divre Torah from the Parasha and Hilchot Shabbat. Women of all ages welcome. Light re-

freshments will be served.

Ladies Tehilim Group

Women are invited to join the Tehilim group Tuesdays at 10:00 a.m. and every Shabbat at 6:00pm Lower Level Restaurant.

Humash and Hamin - Thursday Nights

Come enjoy some delicious Hamin as we study the Parasha with the commentary of the Ohr HaHayim HaKadosh. Thursdays at

9pm in the upstairs Medrash.

Mesilat Yesharim,

Rabbi Kadoch continues the classic Jewish book of study, Mesilat Yesharim. The weekly summer Shabbat class resumes this

Shabbat @5.30 p.m. This week marks the last shiur for the season and will resume again after Pesah.

The pasuk says, (Devarim 24:5) “When a man marries a new

wife, he shall not go out to the army, [nor shall he supervise

it/do any work for the army]; he should be free for his home for

one year, and he should gladden his wife which he married.”

Our sages explain that this Mitzvah is not really concerned

whether or not the husband will live or die in battle as that Mitz-

vah was related to us in the previous parasha, Shoftim, here the

Torah stresses that the husband is exempt from taking on any

responsibilities in the army in any capacity, whatsoever, be it

administrative or even to draw water for the soldiers; his sole

responsibility is to his wife and his home. At first glance, this

seems strange. Your country is being attacked, your fellow sol-

diers need you, your country needs you. How are we to under-

stand this Mitzvah of staying home with one’s spouse during

the first year.

We see from here that more important than helping your coun-

try on the battlefield is to build your family. By building a strong

family unit you are indirectly helping the country. Building that

family with strong moral values and devotion takes a lot of ef-

fort, time and persistent dedication. In the olden days, it would

take an entire year to build that trust between husband and

wife. It is not something that happens over night. This young

family are about to embark on an important mission, to contin-

ue the link in the chain from Har Sinai to the next generation.

On a national level, we see how vital marriage is.

However, there is another very practical lesson we can take out

from this mitzvah. Indeed, your country might need you, your

friends need you, but your wife, not having created that strong

enough bond, needs you more and so the law of priority comes

into effect. The law of priority states that those in your inner

circle take priority over those more distant than you. A good

illustration of this principle we see when the Rambam explains

the hierarchy of who to give tzdeka to. Your inner circle always

comes before your outer circle. In our case, your wife needs you

more than your friends, or country.

A very respected Rabbi in Israel illustrated both these ideas with

the following incident. This Rabbi would often speak out against

a mistaken custom that is prevalent amongst seminary girls on

their wedding day. We know that on a young couple’s wedding

day while under the Huppa is an auspicious time and, therefore,

an opportune time to ask Hashem for anything they want. In

many circles, the bride would get lists of people in need, people

who need shiduchim, people who need Refua, people who need

parnasa and other similar requests all written on a nice sheet of

paper for the bride to pray for while under the Huppa. This rab-

bi would lament against such a custom, paraphrasing, he would

say, if only the bride understood how difficult the journey she is

about to embark on is. Marriage is a serious endeavour and not

easy, raising children takes a tremendous amount of heavenly

assistance. If she only understood how important her role is and

how difficult a task she has in front of her she would spend eve-

ry second of her Tefilot under the Huppa asking for her family

and her future children and grandchildren. From this Rabbi’s

words we see again that, although, there are other Jews who are

suffering that are in need of Tefilot, this bride’s first and fore-

most responsibility is to her husband and unborn children be-

fore anyone else.

With this in mind, always remember to prioritize the people in

your life. If for example, you have 2 missed calls, one is your

wife and the other is an acquaintance you haven’t spoken to in a

long time, return the call of your wife first because she takes

priority. Reply to your husband’s email before replying to any-

one else’s. Having guests on Shabbat is important but if your

kids need more attention, then reserve 1 meal to only be with

your wife and kids. Many gedolim in Israel would only have

guests for one of the 2 shabbat meals. There is nothing to feel

badly about, what Hashem demands of you is that you take care

of your family first. Those entrusted in your care, so make them

a priority.

Our Hachamim tell us that the entire Parasha of the Ben Sorer

U'moreh is hypothetical; it never happened and never will. Its

whole purpose is for us to "learn and be rewarded" through en-

gaging in limud ha-Torah lishma, or learning Torah sincerely for

its own sake (rather than in order to receive a reward) . What

exactly does this mean? While Torah study is indeed a very lofty

pursuit, why did the Torah have to 'invent' a non-existent Para-

sha to convey the idea of limud ha-Torah lishma? Moreover why

specifically Parashat Ben sorer U’moreh to communicate this

lesson? Furthermore, the Torah's wording is difficult. Only a

young son can become a Ben Sorer U'moreh. Why then does the

Torah conclude "v'kol Yisrael Yishme'u V'yira'u" (all of Israel will

hear and have fear)? It should more accurately state only "all of

the sons". “Kol Yisrael” implies that the musar of the death of

the Ben Sorer U'moreh is intended for everyone. Of what benefit

is it to warn the elders not to become Bene Sorer U'moreh?

The Keli Yakar addresses these questions by offering the follow-

ing understanding: The primary function of the Parasha of Ben

Sorer U'moreh is Talmud Torah; it is musar par excellence. We

tend to believe that even though we sin and are deserving of

punishment, since we are all children of the Ribono Shel Olam,

He will have mercy on us and forgive us. Is it not the nature of a

father to forgive his children and forgo punishment? Yet our

Parasha tells us differently. The rebellious son must be brought

to Bet Din to be put to death by his own loving parents. If the

Torah requires parents to respond in such a manner and cannot

simply overlook their son's behaviour, then it goes without say-

ing that the Ribono Shel Olam will not simply ‘just’ ignore

our Averot.

The lesson of the Ben Sorer U'moreh is for each of us - derosh

v'kabel sachar. Powerful as these words may be, the Keli Yakar's

position that the parents of a Ben Sorer U'moreh cannot forgive

their son seems to have a glaring difficulty. In fact, the Sifri

states quite clearly that if the parents of a rebellious child so

desire, they can forgive their son. They are not 'forced' to bring

their son to Bet Din as the Keli Yakar suggests.

Perhaps we can suggest the following approach in understand-

ing this Parsaha; adding to the words of the Keli Yakar and

strengthening the musar of his Divre Torah: While the Ben Sorer

U'moreh is certainly no tzadik, and his thievery and animalistic

demeanour are deserving of punishment, his crimes do not

seem to warrant the death penalty. Why then is this child pun-

ished so harshly? Our Sages tell us that it is the decree of the

Torah that he should better die now while he still has merits

remaining. If he is allowed to continue on his destructive path,

he will deteriorate until he reaches a point deserving of such

severe penalties. Although his parents may be entitled to forgive

their wayward son, doing so would in fact be an act of cruelty,

not mercy. Viewed in this light, we can see that the command to

bring such a son to Bet Din is an act of rahmanut (mercy). Ignor-

ing his behaviour is achzariut (cruelty). In the same way, when

Hashem punishes us, it is truly an act of mercy and is for the

betterment of our souls; it brings us to teshuva and acts as

a kapara. To ignore our averot, is to abandon our neshamot.

Upcoming Events..

~ Sunday Sept. 29th - Hatarat Kelalot

~ Sunday (Sat night) Oct. 6 - Community Selihot

~ Monday Oct. 7 - Yom Kippur Slideshow

Presentation with R’ Chai Cohen

~ Tuesday Oct. 8 - Kapparot and Hatarat Nedarim

~ Wednesday Oct. 16 - Simhat Bet HaShoeva BBQ

~ Tuesday Oct. 22 - Simhat Torah Luncheon