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Healthy Relationships & RBA
Wife Daughter Sister Aunt Friend Coach Teacher Church member Chef
Babysitter Therapist Nurse Accountant Granddaughter Daughter-in-law Chaperone Almost mother Sister-in-law
Mrs. Lamoreaux’s Roles
Role: a part you play in your relationship
Relationship: the bond or connection you have with other people◦ Acquaintances◦ Friends◦ Family
Roles Within Relationships
Marshmallow Tower Activity
Person #1 is the ONLY person who may talk, but cannot touch anything!!
Person #2 CANNOT talk. He/she may only use ONE hand and can only touch marshmallows
Person #3 CANNOT talk. He/she may only use ONE hand and can only touch toothpicks
Marshmallow Towers
Communication◦ We will discuss all
about this next class
Cooperation◦ Working together for
the good of all
Compromise◦ Problem solving
method in which each participant gives up something to reach a solution that satisfies everyone
◦ “Cheaper by the Dozen”
3 C’s of relationships
Respect for Self◦ When you respect
yourself you are more likely to seek relationships where others will treat you with respect.
*BIG CONCEPT!!
Respect for others◦ Listen◦ Considerate others
feelings◦ Mutual trust: being
dependable◦ Realistic in
expectations: cant always be top priority
Respect: willingness to show appreciation and consideration
Bullying:◦ Deliberately harming
or threatening others who cannot easily defend themselves.
Hazing:◦ Making others
perform certain tasks to join a group.
Disrespectful Behaviors
Prejudice: unfair opinion or judgment of a particular group of people.
Stereotype: exaggerated or oversimplified belief about people who belong to a certain group.
TOLERANCE: the ability to accept others differences.
Review 6 Pillars of Character
Trustworthiness:◦ Do what you say you
will do Responsibility:
◦ borrow something, it breaks, you replace it.
Fairness:◦ take turns, share
Caring:◦ Show sympathy
and/or empathy Citizenship:
◦ Be a good neighbor, help by shoveling walks, etc.
Respect:◦ Listen when
someone is talking
Character within Relationships
1. Make a list of the most important people in your lives.
2. Write down ways to show these people that you care about them.
3. Write a list of things that you do that might make these people feel like you don’t care about them.
Relationships
A way to gage the strength or weakness of your relationship.
Much like a real checking/saving account at a bank.◦ As you make “DEPOSITS” the relationship
strengthens.◦ When you make “WITHDRAWALS” the relationship
weakens
The Relationship Bank Account
We have a different “bank account” with everyone we know.◦ These relationships can be in the ‘positive’ or the
‘negative’
It requires conscious deposits in order to maintain the relationship
The Relationship Bank Account
Deposits tend to evaporate or be forgotten about.
Where withdrawals turn to stone (not forgotten…harder to forget)
Too many withdrawals requires even more deposits to bring the account back into the positive.
We must continually make deposits if we want our RBA to stay positive.
Unlike a Real Bank Account
Breaking promises Gossiping about
others Not listening Being arrogant Losing trust Not fulfilling
expectations
Asking for a curfew extension
Borrowing the car…again
Waiting to be told to do something
RBA Withdrawals
Understand the individual
Small courtesies and kindness
Keep our commitments
Clarify Expectations
Show Personal Integrity
Use the most important words
The 6 RBA Deposit Areas:
Recognize what is important to that person and take interest in it
Ex: Sam discusses the stock market with his dad who is a stock-broker
Understand the individual:Show INTEREST
These are often underrated, but kind notes, winks, hugs, etc quickly add up in the RBA.
These small acts demonstrate appreciation
Small courtesies and kindness:Small CHANGE
Doing WHAT we say we will WHEN we say we will
Promising to be somewhere & not showing up = withdrawal
Keep our commitments:Good CREDIT
Critically important in avoiding contention, misunderstandings, & hurt feelings
Don’t read minds or expect others to read yours.
Ex: Moms idea of a clean room might be different than yours.
Clarify Expectations: CHECK
Demonstrate character in all your actions & relationships
Be trustworthy & honest. Don’t gossip
Show Personal Integrity: GOLD
Small, but important words make all the difference in a relationship.
Ex: Please… Thank you… I love you… I’m sorry… How can I help…?
Use the most important words: CASH