Leħen Familji Nsara Diċembru 2014 ● Ħarġa Nru 23 Kummissjoni Familja Naxxar

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Merħba Ħbieb! Merħba ħbieb għall-ħarġa oħra tan-newsletter tal-Kummissjoni

Familja. Il-Kummissjoni Familja fin-Naxxar giet imwaqqfa mill-

Arċipriet Dun Evan Caruana f’Ottubru 2009 bil-għan li

tikkoordina l-ħidma fost il-familji tagħna. Kif tafu riċentement

Dun Evan Caruana nħatar bħala kappillan tal-parroċċa tal-

Madonna tal-Grazzja f’Ħaż-Żabbar. Għaldaqstant din hi l-aħħar

ħarġa ta’ Leħen Familji Nsara taħt it-tmexxija tiegħu.

Nitolbukom tingħaqdu magħna biex flimkien nirringrazzjaw lil

Alla tal-ħidma li Fr. Evan wettaq fost il-familji tagħna. Lil Fr. Evan

nirringrazzjawh mill-qalb u nitolbu lil Alla sabiex ikompli jgħinu fil-

ħidma tiegħu fost il-familji f’Ħaż-Żabbar. L-aħħar quddiesa ta’ Fr.

Evan ta' radd il-ħajr lil Alla ser issir nhar il-Ħadd 14 ta' Diċembru

fil-Knisja Arċipretali fis-6.30pm, fejn il-parruċċani kollha huma

mistiedna.

Fl-istess waqt nixtiequ wkoll nagħtu merħba speċjali u nilqgħu

fostna lil-Arċipriet il-ġdid Dun David Gauci.

X’inhi l-familja? Lil hinn mill-problemi u l-ħtiġijiet l-aktar pressanti, il-familja hija

“ċentru ta’ mħabba” li fih tirrenja l-liġi tar-rispett u l-komunjoni, li

għandha ħila tirreżisti l-mewġa ta’ manipolazzjoni ta’ dinja

materjalistika. Fil-qalba tal-familja, il-persuna tintegra ruħha

b’mod naturali u b’armonija, u tissupera l-oppożizzjoni falza bejn l-

individwu u s-soċjetà. Fi ħdan il-familja, ħadd qatt ma jingħata l- ġenb: isibu kenn kemm l-anzjan u anke t-tarbija.

Ir-relazzjonijiet ibbażati fuq l-imħabba fidila sal-mewt, bħalma huma ż-żwieġ, li tkun ġenitur, li

tkun iben jew bint, li jkollok lil ħutek nitgħallmuhom u ngħixuhom fil-familja. Dawn ir-relazzjonijiet

jiffurmaw in-nisġa bażika ta’ soċjetà. Għalhekk mhux possibbli li wieħed ikun tassew parti minn

poplu, jekk f’qalbu dawn ir-relazzjonijiet fundamentali li jnisslu s-sikurezza għall-ftuħ lejn l-oħrajn

huma mkissrin.

L-imħabba fil-familja hija għammiela mhux biss għax iġġib ħajja ġdida imma wkoll għax twessa’

x-xefaq tal-eżistenza u tiġġenera dinja ġdida. Il-familja tgħinna nemmnu, kontra kull

skoraġġiment u disfattiżmu, li ħajja flimkien mibnija fuq ir-rispett u l-fiduċja hija possibbli.

Quddiem il-viżjoni materjalistika tad-dinja, il-familja ma tbaxxiex lill-bniedem u tagħmlu ħaġa ta’

utilità sterili, imma toffrilu triq biex jissodisfa x-xewqat l-aktar profondi tiegħu. X’inhi l-familja, jekk

mhux ir-rigal għalik mingħand Alla?

Addatat minn messaġġ tal-qdusija tiegħu l-Papa Franġisku lill-kungress Latin Amerikan għall-pastorali tal-familjali li sar bejn l-4 u d-9 ta’

Awwissu 2014 fil-belt ta’ Panama

Il-koppji membri tal-Kummissjoni Familja jixtiqulkom Milied qaddis u

sena mimlija risq, hena u barka. Nistiednu l-familji tagħkom għaċ-

ċelebrazzjoni tal-quddiesa tan-novena tal-Milied iddedikata lill-familji

nhar il-Ħadd 22 ta’ Diċembru fil-11:00am fil-knisja tan-Naxxar.

Importance of the Father-child Bond

For many fathers, every day is filled with missed

opportunities to bond with their child and

influence the directions they will take in life.

They rationalize that they are sacrificing for

their family by working long hours and justify

emotional distance as modelling how to

survive in the “cold, cruel world.” Food on the

table and a roof over head is nice but nothing

makes up for loving, nurturing relationships with

one’s father.

How do you bond with your child?

The best way to bond is simply to spend time.

What you do is not as important. Physical

activities are the most familiar to fathers and

include working around the house together,

sharing a hobby, exercising and going places

together. Intellectual activities focus on being

involved in a child’s academics, participating

in school activities, encouraging hard work,

and modelling yourself as their primary

teacher of life. Social activities centered on

talking with children, sharing feelings and

thoughts, demonstrating appropriate affection

and manners, and getting to know your child’s

friends. Spiritual activities are used the least by

dads but have the most power to influence.

These activities incorporate reading spiritual

stories together, going to church, praying with

children, establishing rules, being consistent

and available, and exploring the mysteries of

nature.

How is the father-child bond unqiue?

Dads have a different approach or style to

bonding than mums. Dads have a more rough

and tumble approach to physical interaction

or may spend more time in physical activities.

Competition is also seen more in father-child

bonding and is healthy if used in small doses

and with sensitivity to a child’s temperament

and tumble approach to physical interaction

or may spend more time in physical activities.

Competition is also seen more in father-child

bonding and is healthy if used in small doses

and with sensitivity to a child’s temperament

and abilities. Sportsmanship, but not

necessary sports activities, is an essential

ingredient in the development of a child’s

character. While the approach may differ,

the need for bonding with mum and dad is

equally significant.

What barriers prevent fathers from bonding

with their child?

Work and the mismanagement of time are

the biggest robbers of relationships. Society

today makes it easy to use one’s career as an

escape. Social influences tend to value the

bond a child has with mum to be more

important than with dad. Eliminating barriers

in society begins in the home. Dads need to

take the initiative to change a diaper, clean

up after dinner, give the kids their bath, and

do the laundry. The collective effect of these

“small” acts will ripple out into society to

create a “bigger” change.

Can a father bond with a child if his own

father was absent?

Not having a father would make it more

difficult but not impossible. Bonding is more of

an innate need or spiritual drive, than simply a

learned behaviour. Therefore, fatherless

fathers are not doomed to repeat their own

childhood experiences. Dads should get

excited about the little things that make a

child excited or happy. Getting down on the

child’s level, regressing to those early

moments in life when you were a child, and

sharing simple pleasures will foster the

bonding missed the first time around.

The bond between a father and a child is an

important one. Barriers, such as social values

and absent fathers make bonding difficult but

not impossible. Children need the unique style

of bonding that fathers can provide and

fathers can build that bond by spending time

engaging in physical, intellectual, social and

spiritual activities. Adapted from an article by by Ron Huxley available on

www.familycorner.com

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