The Kids’ Guide to Working Out Conflicts

Nicy Young

Let’s read aloud!

Mom: Get up (↗), get up (↘). Kid: I don’t want to get up(↘).Mom: Are you sure?(↗)Kid : I’m sure.(↘)Mom : Five more minutes?(↗)Kid : Ten more minutes.(↘)Mom : You’ll be late.(↗)Kid : Wait(↗), wait.(↘)Mom : Time to up.(↘)Kid : No, no, no!(↘)Mom : Time to up.(↘)Kid : NO, NO, NO!(↘)

ReadWhat are mentioned in this passage? □ The causes of conflicts □ Where do conflicts happen □ How to become a conflict maker □ How to be a conflict solver □ A test of working out problems Vocabulary causes: reasons

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• A conflict

• The causes of conflicts

• A conflict trigger

• A conflict solver

• is something that annoys or upsets people.

• are people’s needs, wants, hurt feelings and bad moods.

• is a fight, disagreement, or misunderstanding.

• can make people’s lives better.

Read and match

Read and Fill in the blanks

•Conflicts happen between _________of all ages ___________.

•Sometimes someone says or _______ something that ________ your feelings.

•If you understand your trigger, you can ________ yourself before you do something to create more ________.

•If you can solve your conflicts, your whole life could ________.

peopleeverywhere

does hurts

stop conflict

improve

• 1. Although there are lots of causes for conflicts, they usually stem from people’s needs and wants. A. stop from B. come from

• 2. One way you can help yourself handle conflicts better is to understand what annoys and upsets you. A. solve B. make

• 3. Once you understand your trigger, you can be aware of it.

A. know about B. think about

Guess the meaning

Test yourselvesWhen I have a conflict Yes No

I stop myself before I do something to create more conflict

I say what I think , but I do it politely

I listen to what the other person has to sayI think in the other person’s place

I look for ways to solve the problem , but not win the argument

Test yourselves

How many YESes have you got?• < 3 • You still need to improve.

• >= 3 • Wonderful!

You’re already a good conflict solver.

Are you ready to become a conflict solver?

A conflict solver can…• help change your own life• help affect the lives of people around you.• help our world move closer to peace

Vocabulary• affect: make a difference to

Conflict:Mom: Could you take the dog for a walk?Nancy: Could I watch one show first?Mom: No! You watch TV all the time and never help out

around the house. I can’t work all day and do housework all evening!

Nancy: Well, I work all day at school, too! I am just as tired as you are!

Solution(解决方法 )

Nancy: I’m sorry. I finally find that we need to share the housework to have a clean and comfortable home.

Act it out

conflict

Make up conversations

What other conflicts do you have?How do you solve them?

Let’s share• It’s a crazy world,• with conflicts all around.• But dear friends,• don’t cry,• don’t frown(皱眉头 ).• Since there is a solution，• somewhere to be found.• So why not smile,• why not laugh like a clown(小丑 )？• Still, it’s a wonderful world,• even with conflicts all around.

Let’s do

When conflicts happen to you,…

Homework

Write down 2 short conversations of conflicts and solutions.

Thank you

Teach children how to relax and calm down with relaxation exercises.Breathing Deeply: Have the kids take a deep breath while counting to five. Then as you count back to one, have them slowly release the air.Muscle Relaxing: Have the kids pretend to become frozen by slowly tightening each part of their bodies until they are "frozen solid". Then, let them "thaw" by relaxing each part of their bodies and allowing their anger to melt away.Combined Breathing and Muscle Relaxing: Have the kids pretend they are balloons filling up with air. As you count to five, they slowly breath in and fill up their balloons, stretching and tightening their muscles. Have them hold it a few seconds. Then, as you count back to one again, have them release the air and relax their muscles as though their balloon is deflating.

2. Have students identify ways in which they handle their anger in positive ways. List these on a chart. Post the chart in the classroom and refer to it when situations arise.3. Role play situations that create anger. Younger children may use puppets. Have students show how they would react in each situation. Discuss how controlling their anger can change the situation and role play it again. Examples of some situations are:a) Your friend teases you about your hairstyle.b) You find out that your best friend has gone roller skating with someone else and didn't invite you.c) Your sister or brother borrows your favorite sweater without asking.

Let’s read aloud!

Mom: Get up (↗), get up (↘). Kid: I don’t want to get up(↘).Mom: Are you sure?(↗)Kid : I’m sure.(↘)Mom : Five more minutes?(↗)Kid : Ten more minutes.(↘)Mom : You’ll be late.(↗)Kid : Wait(↗), wait.(↘)Mom : Time to up.(↘)Kid : No, no, no!(↘)Mom : Time to up.(↘)Kid : NO, NO, NO!(↘)

What’s the problem?/ They argue/Mum is angry/The kid is not happy/They disagree with ach other/ Do you have the same problem?? Do you argue/fight?

Conflict Triggers

A trigger is ___________________. □ What annoys or upsets you □ What helps you to handle conflicts

When you understand your trigger, is it good for you?

Vocabulary be aware of: realize create: make

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Group work

Conflict solver?OrConflict maker?

Role play by yourself (or with a puppet)

What is a conflict?

Where do conflicts happen?

Fast reading

Vocabulary individuals: persons, not a group communities: a group of people living in a large place near your house

You’re fat, lazy and silly! I never see you do anything right!

Look at yourself! Stay away from me! I don’t want to see you again!

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