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Parshat Miketz 5773
Drasha
The Darkest Prison
The Parsha begins by informing us that another two years had gone by
since we last left Yosef in prison, when suddenly Pharaoh has a dream:
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The Chazal note that if we factor in these additional two years, his stay
in prison adds up to a grand total of twelve years. It is traditionally
understood that these years in prison were part of a Divine
punishment. With this in mind Id like to share with you an interesting
Midrash in Shemot Rabbah:
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It seems according to this Midrash, that Yosefs stay in prison was
(measure for measure). Just as Moshes comment about "
" (how will Pharaoh listen to me) led to Aarons
appointment, Yosefs plea to the (the butler), to remember
him after leaving prison led to his being forgotten. Yosef had falsely
placed hope in his fellow man and thus failed to rely upon Hakadosh
Baruch Hu in his time of need.
This Midrash also explains that Yosef was being punished for his
treatment of his brothers, as we read in the previous parsha:
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The " " in his work " " (Rav Eliyahu Hakohen HaItmari)
ponders how it is that the punishment fits the crime? Why is ten years
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of imprisonment appropriate measure for measure for the act of
spreading ?
The explains that in truth the punishment does fit the crime,
since spreading gossip and harming the reputation of another person
causes the victim great shame, to such an extent that they would be
embarrassed to even leave the threshold of their house. And even if the
shamed person were to be so brave as to venture outside, they would
inevitably feel imprisoned. It is therefore appropriate, argues R Eliyahu
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Hakohen that Yosef was thrown into a prison, as punishment for
imprisoning his ten siblings.
This past week we learned how true these words of the are.
Princess Kate Middleton, The Duchess of Cambridge was taken into the
hospital for minor discomfort associated with her pregnancy. To give
you an idea of the level of celebrity, within an hour the whole world
knew that she was in the hospital as well as the reason for her stay.
It was the perfect opportunity for an innocent prank, and so two radio
D.J.s some 10,000 miles away in Australia placed a phone call to the
front desk of the hospital pretending to be the Queen of England and
Prince Charles. To their utter shock and amusement, they were
connected with the nurse of the Duchess and were given some private
yet relatively harmless information about her status.
Over the next couple of hours these DJs were catapulted into
international stardom, the clip replayed hundreds of times on the radio
and news around the globe. But as we all know by now the laughter
came to a screeching halt when the nurse responsible for forwarding
the call decided to take her own life.
As confirmed yesterday, the nurse acknowledged in her suicide note
that one of the reasons for doing what she was about to do was the
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shame and humiliation and treatment she received by the hospital
administration was simply too much to bear.
It is extremely difficult to imagine the prison we create with our own
words, but even with a friendly comment or quick jab we can
inadvertently incarcerate another person.
Apparently, the nurse Jacintha Saldanha felt that she had nowhere else
to turn. Her family was in shock as they had not even heard the story in
advance of the horrific news.
Without knowing the details, one can only imagine that her colleagues
belittled her and her supervisors berated her feeling pressure from the
royal family over the breach in privacy.
Assessing responsibility is thus so complex, there are so many little cogs
in the story, that no one person is to blame.
From a halachic perspective, this dilemma had been presented by our
Sages in the case a person who is beaten by ten men, each delivering a
blow to the head or body. The Talmud wondered who is liable for the
mans death? Who has to answer to the grieving family? Who has to
face din vcheshbon (Divine Justice)?
Is it the D.J. or is it the hospital, or perhaps its the royal family, or just
maybe its the millions of people who were riding home from work on
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Thursday afternoon and amidst the traffic heard this cute story and had
a quick chuckle?
And while it is difficult to assess blame, there is clearly a need for a
tikun, for fixing the way we operate.
Bullying is a phenomenon that has been studied now for years by
psychologists and educators.
It used to be believed, almost universally, that bullies were the socially
disruptive types, the anarchists, who broke the rules and displayed
aggressive behavior. Then through, the study of what is called The
Science of peer relations1
they made a few important discoveries. The
bullies in school were not the ones who ended up with criminal records,
they werent the brutish and unintelligent children. Rather, most
bullying was meted out by children who were popular, well-liked and
admired. That popularity and social dominance is intrinsically linked
with meanness and cruelty came to no surprise to the educators and to
the victims; but to those studying social sciences it was an obvious
conversation that was not being had. Nobody had focused on that type
of passive aggression in their research, instead it was always the
children who dressed in Goth, who were depressed or angry, who came
1Nurture Shock, P.O Bronson and Ashley Merryman, page 187-193
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from broken homes and had low IQs and who had anger management
issues.
Dr. Joseph Allen, a professor at University of Virginia noted that few
research grants were ever given to study the popular kids
systematically because it was always assumed that the popular kids
were doing just fine. Suddenly, a few scientists noted that popular
children were doing drugs and drinking as well and the grant money
flew in. And now all of the old assumptions have been shattered. For
instance, it used to be assumed that girls are not aggressive, but the
new research demonstrates that they can be just as aggressive, but that
they are more likely to use relational aggression. Similarly, popular,
intelligent, well adjusted children, who may come from in-tact homes
and may be well off financially, were now being considered for
aggressive behavior.
The bully is not socially deviant; he is socially savvy. He holds his
peers in awe, but in addition his teachers, parents and coaches are all
attracted to the very same charm.
These children dont learn aggression by watching violent television or
by playing Grand-Theft-Auto, instead as soon as they learn about
coolness and how to be attractive to other people.
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Yosef is guilty according to the Chazal of being on his
brothers, what does that mean?
According to Rashi it means that he would say anything negative he
could about his brothers:
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However, a more nuanced reading emerges from the Rashbam:
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Why are we told about - ? And furthermore, whydoes the verse begin with a cryptic line such as
,-- Yosef wasnt the only son of Yaakov!?
Perhaps what was going on here was the scramble for the throne.
Untill now it had been relatively simple, Avraham had two children, and
he had picked his successor, Yitzchak had a more complicated
circumstance, but he nonetheless had selected Yaakov when all was
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said and done. But what about Yaakovs decision? Who was going to
lead the clan? The verse, in mentioning Yosef as the first descendant of
Yaakov lets us know that there is an unstated struggle for the mantle of
leadership. And amidst this struggle Yosef makes a move:
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What did he do exactly?
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Rashbam understands that Yosef had employed the art of
Machiavellian political angling. Yosef told Yaakov that the older
brothers were mistreating the sons of the , Bilha and Zilpah, but
he asserted that he (Yosef) was kind towards them.
This is about pecking order, and if Yosef can out maneuver the sons of
Leah, he is the de-facto head of the household, certainly over the sons
of the maidservants who seem beyond consideration.
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In the popularity contest, Yosef wins out, he bests his older siblings, he
has cool clothing and good looks and has mastered the art of charming
his father.
Yosef is not evil, he is after all Yosef HaTzaddik! But he is, according to
the Midrash, guilty of using his words to cleverly out maneuver his
competition and emerge as the next leader.
In doing so, he caused a great deal of pain to the brothers, and is this
punished with his time in the Egyptian prison cell.
We are celebrating the holiday of Chanukah, it is the holiday which
recognizes the plight of the victim and the ability for them to emerge.
doesnt always happen, most classrooms and places of
work will contend with the bully and will continue to fall prey to his
allure. But as people who recognize that Yosef must first repent for his
actions before rising to prominence, and as a people who decry the
persecution of the Greeks over the Jews, it behooves us to remember
what its like to be on the receiving end.
Let us not tolerate bullying in our schools in our shul groups, in our own
backyards and homes, and let us not tolerate it in our places of work.
The subordination of others, even in the most subtle and oblique
manner, can amount to much more than character assassination; it can
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alienate, it can cast a person into a prison of deep sadness and it can
even be fatal.
Remember, that the Sages taught )Sotah 10b)
Or Rabbi Shimon bar Yochais corollary to that principle:
"." Remember that bullies arent always evil, they are more often than not
like you and I, looking to succeed, looking to climb the social and
financial rungs of life. We are encouraged to strive for greatness, for
recognition and even for the adulation of others, but never, under any
circumstance, may we do so while standing on someone elses back.