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+The Challenges to Marriage
الزواج في الخطيرة التحدياتواألسرة
St George & St Joseph Coptic Orthodox Church, Montreal, QCCouples Meeting – September 24, 2015
Yousry Armanios, M.D.
+المسيحي البيت
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الرب فنعبد
24:15يشوع
JUST MARRIED! JUST MARRIED!
What God Has Joined Together, Let Not
Man Separate” (Matthew 19:6)
What God Has Joined Together, Let Not
Man Separate” (Matthew 19:6)
The Ultimate: Marriage!
And, Family Life
Love Overcomes the ChallengesLove Overcomes the Challenges
All Challenges!All Challenges!
التحديات على يتغلب التحديات الحب على يتغلب الحب
Love Never Fails!Love Never Fails!
! � أبدا تسقط ال !المحبة � أبدا تسقط ال المحبة
The Ten ChallengesThe Ten Challenges
1. Our Ego!
2. Resolving the Differences
3. Leaving
4. Intimacy
5. Mammon
6. Boredom
7. Communication
8. Keeping the Boundaries
9. Mutual Trust
10. The New Visitors!
1. Our Ego!
2. Resolving the Differences
3. Leaving
4. Intimacy
5. Mammon
6. Boredom
7. Communication
8. Keeping the Boundaries
9. Mutual Trust
10. The New Visitors!
الذات 1.
اإلختالفات 2. حل
الترك 3.
االلتصاق 4.
ياتمادال 5.
مللال 6.
التواصل 7.
الحدود 8. إبقاء
المتبادلة 9. الثقة.10 ! الجدد الزوار
الذات 1.
اإلختالفات 2. حل
الترك 3.
االلتصاق 4.
ياتمادال 5.
مللال 6.
التواصل 7.
الحدود 8. إبقاء
المتبادلة 9. الثقة.10 ! الجدد الزوار
تحديات تحديات العشرة العشرة
تحديات العشرة
1. الذات 2. اإلختالفات حل3. الترك4. االلتصاق5. ياتمادال 6. مللال 7. التواصل8. الحدود إبقاء9. المتبادلة الثقة10. الجدد !الزوار
Proper Communication:
Both spouses may love each other dearly, but without proper
communication, that love goes unnoticed and the result is often
terrible and tragic!
Our Feelings When,
We Don’t CommunicateOr
Miscommunicate
How Does It Feel When …?
The Image of God!Communication is about Love!
“So then, they are no longer two but one flesh.
“Therefore, what God has joined together, let not man separate”
Matthew 19:6
1. The Radio:One-Way Communication!
2. “Skype”
Two-Ways Communication!
So, How Should We Communicate?
1. Verbal Communication
2. Non-Verbal Communication
1. Verbal CommunicationPlease Consider …
• Changing Your Old Stereotypes
• Improving Your Skills: LISTEN
• Each Other’s Right for Self-Expression
• Using Always the “I” Statements!
Verbal Communication Takes Time to Help Us Understand our Differences
• For women, it’s an end in itself
• For men, it’s more of a means towards a goal
• For both, it builds mutual interest and trust
Communication & Listening
“Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow
to become angry.” (James 1:19)
The Assertive “I” StatementsExercise:
1. “I” Feel …!
2. “I” Think …!
3. “I” Believe …!
4. “I” Need …!
2. Non-Verbal Communication
Facial Features & Body Language
“Other” Four Languages of Love:
1. Time Together!
2. Unexpected (Surprise) Gifts!
3. Silent Help!
4. Messaging: (Dress; Cook; Initiatives …)
Negative Communication Patterns (1)
• Interrupting
• Stonewalling
• Avoiding
• Ignoring
• Threatening
Negative Communication Patterns (2)
• Mind Reading
• Criticizing
• Monopolizing/Polarizing
• Cynicism
• Passive Aggressiveness
Validation of Feelings:Your Prescription for Success!
+ Spot the Feeling
+ Address the Feeling:
Examples:
• “Yes, I understand how you feel”!
• “You sound like you’re …”!
• “You look like you’re …”!
• “There’s something bothering you”!
The Outcome:Problem Solving
Many Problems Can Be Avoided
If:
• We Communicate Our Feelings!
Many Problems can Be Resolved
If:
• We Can Communicate Them Right!
+المسيحي البيت
من اليوم ألنفسكم اختارواوبيتي أنا أما تعبدون
الرب فنعبد
24:15يشوع
Finally, Always Remember that:
“Love Never Fails”! (1 Corinthians 13)
